Episode #169: Reflections on Half our Lives On-line (and Half Offline)


This week, we’re taking a nostalgic journey. We’re speaking about life earlier than and after the Web and our experiences as early influencers.

We’re additionally sharing our e book report for Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert.

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Present Notes

Our profession synopsis:

  • Began running a blog within the early 2000s
  • Began A Lovely Mess in 2007
  • Owned two classic shops for 5 years 
  • Acquired a e book deal based mostly on the weblog
  • Started running a blog full time

What we miss from the very early part of running a blog: 

  • How pure the early weblog subjects have been.
  • Not having to have a relentless presence on social media.

When did influencer change into an official phrase/job?

  • For us, it was within the late 2000s, nevertheless it relies on every particular person.

Favourite web sites that stand the check of time: 

What are the professionals and cons of running a blog then vs. now? 


Then: Simpler to get followers and fewer aggressive.
Now: Simpler to earn money and extra instruments.


Then: Having to study the whole lot the laborious approach.
Now: Issues are all the time altering.

How will your experiences change the way you strategy the Web with your individual youngsters?

Elsie: Delay so long as attainable and be sincere.
Emma: Delay and let her youngsters be bored.

What’s the cringiest factor you shared earlier than you knew the Web was without end?

Elsie: Venting 
Emma: Speaking about outdated boyfriends

Do you ever fear about maintaining with technological advances?

No, as a result of we keep open to alter and are usually not afraid to ask dumb questions.

How do your family and friends really feel about you being Web well-known?

They don’t care and we actually aren’t well-known.

Did you might have Web boyfriends?


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Episode 169 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week we’re taking a nostalgic journey. We’re speaking about life earlier than and after the web, and our experiences as early influencers. We’re additionally sharing our e book report for Massive Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. That is one in all my favourite topics. I really feel like we have been born in probably the most attention-grabbing occasions in historical past as a result of we have been the final era of youngsters who have been raised utterly off the web. We didn’t have a house pc till I believe I used to be in highschool after we obtained it ish. I believe it was possibly like AOL Web was the form of factor that used your property’s cellphone line. So if you happen to picked up the cellphone, which there have been no cell telephones by the way in which, if you happen to picked up the cellphone and somebody was utilizing the web, it was like, zzzzzzz, that sort of vibe. We had very restricted entry to the web. There additionally wasn’t lots to do on the web. I might go on purpose and discuss to love two folks from my church or no matter, two little boys. And that was about it. Are you aware what I imply? And it’s like, how’s your day? How’s your day? What are you doing? Okay, bye. It was not a really energetic area for me and we went from that. I didn’t have a cellphone till I used to be an grownup, I used to be out of faculty. And the way outdated have been you whenever you obtained your first? 

Emma: I believe I had one in highschool, nevertheless it didn’t have web. It was identical to you possibly can name. I don’t even assume it had texting. 

Elsie: No. I bear in mind particularly texting was like once I was 23, cuz I bear in mind when it was new. So there are such a lot of issues that change. It’s really very wild to mirror on. Smartphones are a giant one. I obtained the very first model of the iPhone and I used to be so happy with it. I’ve by no means been happy with any piece of tech in my life and I swear to God it couldn’t do something. Like apps weren’t even a factor but. It was just about an iPod that was additionally a cellphone and I used to be identical to, that is so cool. I can simply take heed to the postal service all day, on my cellphone. And take actually, actually, actually low-quality footage. Like we had no concept that in simply 10 years that we’d have eight photograph apps. And that additionally cellphone pictures would change into for a lot of functions, simply nearly as good as digicam pictures, which is mind-blowing. And for me, just like the invention of FaceTime, I’m a giant FaceTimer. Yeah, I find it irresistible. It simply makes me really feel like we’re residing sooner or later each single time as a result of after we have been youngsters, each film had like some model of FaceTime and that was like the longer term. And I really feel like that’s the one factor that basically got here by way of. It was simply because it was predicted to be. Additionally the invention of digital cameras. I’ve talked about earlier than, my first enterprise was attempting to be a marriage photographer in my early twenties and I shot nearly the whole lot on movie, which is so terrifying now and laborious to think about. But it surely really took a very long time for digital cameras to rise as much as the extent of a movie digicam, and at first, it simply wasn’t there. So yeah, just about all tech that you can imagine has modified a lot. And it’s simply enjoyable. I attempted to elucidate to my youngsters the opposite day that we watched the identical TV reveals each morning as a result of that was what was on at a sure time and you possibly can solely watch One Selection. After which we had videotapes of sure cartoons and ours have been like recorded from television and we additionally had this VHS tape of a carnival cruise ship, like an advert of attempting to get you to take a carnival cruise. And to this present day I’ve it like nearly memorized as a result of we watched it so many occasions. I really wanna know in the event that they nonetheless have it, as a result of I might love to look at it one final time. However, clearly just like the world has modified a lot and all millennial folks can relate to this to some extent as a result of to some extent there’s a giant span of ages for millennial folks, however at the least the web was nonetheless creating whenever you have been a baby. For those who had it in your house, it nonetheless most likely wasn’t as a lot of an impact as it’s on youngsters now. We’re simply gonna mirror on the variations after which additionally simply how breaking loopy it’s that we grew to become web personalities. So I simply should say upfront, I obtained plenty of messages yesterday saying you shouldn’t use the phrase influencer. Like folks have a factor with the phrase influencer. And the explanation why I say it’s as a result of it’s simply frequent terminology proper now. And I don’t care. And I simply assume nobody ought to care. Who cares? So let’s simply not let that be a factor. I get it that the phrase has slightly little bit of a mocking tone if you consider it in a sure approach as a result of it’s a little bit foolish, however on the identical time, it’s fairly freaking correct to what it’s attempting to speak. 

Emma: I consider myself as a blogger and I believe folks on YouTube consider themselves as vloggers or YouTubers. However I really feel like saying influencer is one option to embody everybody. So for me, it’s, as a substitute of claiming if you happen to weblog or your vlog, otherwise you’re on Instagram, I may say that every time, however I really feel like that’s type of tedious and annoying and I really feel like the perfect phrase, at the least proper now, that I may consider is an influencer and it consists of everybody who may be doing any of this stuff.

Elsie: I get it, why it’s not the proper time period, but in addition who cares? And I stand by that. I don’t care. So we’re simply gonna say it and we’re simply not gonna care. And I believe that it’s like maintaining with the altering terminology and the entire many adjustments is part of our job. It’s an enormous a part of our job. You can’t do what we do and resist change. It’s a crucial half. I needed to first earlier than we get into it clarify, so we grew up within the pre-internet world and I name it the journal period the place it was like magazines have been freaking the whole lot. For those who needed to get impressed if you happen to needed to examine a well-known particular person if you happen to needed to know what was cool. I might head to Barnes and Noble and get a Frappuccino and browse magazines and that was for a very long time. Even in my early twenties, it was like that. I didn’t begin utilizing the web as a day by day instrument till I used to be about 25 years outdated, which is difficult to imagine now. Everybody was asking what our purpose title was, like AOL On the spot Messenger, I believe is purpose the identical factor and I don’t bear in mind mine. Do you bear in mind? 

Emma: I don’t assume I ever had that. I actually was not towards it, I simply didn’t get into social media till it was actually a factor and well beyond the time to start. I don’t know why, simply chat rooms and issues like that by no means appealed to me. I believe cuz I’m such a loner. So I largely use the web for purchasing issues like purchasing or trying issues up on Wikipedia or stuff like that, schoolwork stuff. I did have a MySpace, I did have. However I didn’t get a Fb as a result of I used to be like, effectively I have already got MySpace and so they appear to be the identical factor. It didn’t even happen to me that was a giant deal. I don’t know. 

Elsie: Seems they’re not the identical factor. Okay, so yeah, fast profession synopsis. So we began running a blog within the early two 1000’s. I don’t even know what yr. I believe we began a Lovely Mess in 2008 or 2007. 

Emma: I believe you began in 2007. Yeah. 

Elsie: Yeah, so this was nonetheless within the MySpace period after which after that, we had our classic retailer period, which lasted some time, like 5 years. I had two totally different shops and I considered myself as a retailer proprietor and my weblog is only a option to promote that. I didn’t consider myself as a blogger in direction of possibly nearer to the top of our classic retailer period after we began. And this occurred naturally, it wasn’t intentional, however our weblog began to earn more cash than our retailer, which actually wasn’t laborious to do. And we obtained provided a e book deal and we obtained a literary agent based mostly on our weblog. In order that for me was the purpose once I knew that there was extra of a profession future in running a blog than there was in proudly owning a neighborhood retailer for us, which I had not identified earlier than that. After which after that, we had many alternative phases of early running a blog. I really feel like we type of tried the whole lot and possibly we nonetheless type of do. We had our massive staff period the place we like tried to rent a giant staff and we have been identical to new cash infants. We had success shortly, however then we simply had to determine what to do with it and that’s actually laborious. And searching again now, I want I might’ve had a mentor and we did slightly bit, however not as a lot as possibly we would have liked. Then 10 years later we’re nonetheless running a blog and we’re nonetheless doing it on daily basis. Lots of people who we began off with have retired or give up or stopped doing it, and there are nonetheless many individuals who we begin off with who’re nonetheless doing it to this present day. So we’re one of many remaining early influencers, I prefer to say. We haven’t moved on to larger and higher issues. We’ve really tried 100 various things within the meantime, and I nonetheless really feel like our weblog is among the extra sustainable elements of our enterprise. 

Emma: Yeah, and likewise I believe for each of us, we simply actually take pleasure in running a blog. It offers us an area to create and write and promote issues like all these totally different actions and we are able to do it as a lot as we would like or as little as we would like. And it’s enjoyable to have totally different areas and mediums for issues. 

Elsie: So lots of people need to know what we miss in regards to the early part of running a blog. I personally don’t miss lots, however I do miss a few issues. I believe the early part of running a blog may be very, I believe something that’s over now tends to get romanticized. The place you solely bear in mind the great issues about it. However as somebody who did it in early running a blog, I had plenty of monetary hardship and I used to be not but at a degree the place I had any type of monetary safety. So, I simply type of remembered that, like balancing, the identical wants and desires that a big web viewers has on you, however with out the monetary safety. It’s more durable. So for me, I consider it as worse, however I believe the issues I miss about it are, I miss how pure the early running a blog subjects and issues like that, it may simply be so small. We may simply put up, I assume it’s nonetheless the identical stuff you put up now although, however I don’t know. I believe you possibly can take the weekend off, go someplace you didn’t ever have to elucidate the place you have been, what you have been doing. You could possibly simply form of disappear nonetheless with out social media, which I cherished.

Emma: Oh yeah, so that you miss disappearing trigger yeah, that’s most likely the primary factor I miss about simply not having a mobile phone is typically, I don’t know, it offers me slightly bit of hysteria when individuals are like texting me and I’m on the health club or at some type of appointment getting my hair carried out and I can’t maintain my cellphone in the meanwhile or one thing. I simply really feel you’re slightly bit anticipated to all the time reply the cellphone or be accessible, and the reality is typically you’re simply not. 

Elsie: Yeah, I miss the power to vanish, that was cool. So, When did influencer change into an official phrase or job? I believe that query is difficult to reply. I might say the phrase influencer is new from the previous couple of years, however when it grew to become an official job, I believe simply relies on every particular person. For us, it was within the late two 1000’s that we began to have a paycheck that was common and it was like our foremost revenue. It occurred fairly shortly as soon as it did in our state of affairs. Really, I believe that the large magic e book report had a lot good recommendation about like, don’t give up your job and identical to there’s lots I needed to speak about for that afterward. However I believe that individuals focus a lot on the quitting your job a part of it and I’m not gonna lie, that is the reality, it’s nonetheless a job. Possibly it’s simpler and possibly you prefer it higher, and possibly it’s a extra fulfilling job, nevertheless it’s nonetheless having a job. It’s not, not having a job.

Emma: Yeah, I believe typically folks consider it such as you’re in early retirement or one thing. And I believe you possibly can run it that approach. I assume for me, I all the time view it otherwise as a result of I’m the kind of one that my complete life, even once I was in highschool, I’ve all the time type of cobbled collectively my revenue from totally different areas.

Elsie: I nonetheless assume that lots of people don’t think about influencing an official profession. It’s like you’ll be able to’t go to highschool for it, and it’s nonetheless most likely a job that many alternative mother and father would discourage, and possibly rightfully so. I don’t know. I don’t even know whether it is an official job nonetheless to this present day, I assume. 

Emma: I pay taxes, so I’d say it’s. 

Elsie: Okay, subsequent query. What have been your favourite web sites that stood the check of time? I cherished this one, just like the web sites you visited. Okay, so I do bear in mind all of the blogs I visited within the early days, and the one ones that also put up now to this present day are Oh Pleasure and Younger Home Love.

Emma: I additionally learn these blogs and have for an extended, very long time. And I might additionally add to the listing two bloggers that I learn without end, like earlier than I used to be ever even a blogger, Pleasure The Baker and Smitten Kitchen, we’re nonetheless running a blog too.

Elsie: Oh my God. Wait, I wanna add additionally Cupcakes and Cashmere as a result of I do love Emily and he or she is certainly from the olden days. What are the professionals and cons of running a blog then versus now? Getting straight to it, I don’t assume there’s something about running a blog that was higher within the early days than it’s now, apart from possibly it was simpler to ascertain followers. Possibly it was much less aggressive, however why does it matter if it’s much less aggressive if you happen to can’t make any cash from it in any respect? Within the early days of running a blog, have been very, very, very small and sluggish quantities of cash. So I believe it’s a lot better now, there’s rather more alternative. I all the time say that individuals beginning now have a bonus and so they don’t appear to see it. Folks don’t appear to see it that approach as a result of they assume that the one approach is to be like an early adopter. It’s not the one approach folks begin and have a fast rise with laborious work on a regular basis. Each single yr folks will try this, and it’s all the time attainable. 

Emma: I might say the one factor higher again then was there was much less competitors. And that’s actually the one factor. And to your level, I believe there have been lots fewer methods to earn money and lots fewer established methods to earn money and lots fewer instruments. So the whole lot was simply more durable to do. And now it’s approach higher and simpler. I’d fairly change into a blogger now than again then, but in addition that’s simply what occurred. And so right here we’re. It’s not like I knew what we have been lacking out on. It’s not like we knew, oh, in the future there’ll be approach simpler methods to perform all of those duties that you just’re doing now. So manually, it’s not like we knew that, so it wasn’t a giant burden again then. However trying again, I’m like, oh man, I can’t imagine we simply get to press a button and this makes a recipe card, that is wonderful. Again then there was identical to nothing. We might’ve needed to construct that from scratch or one thing. 

Elsie: I agree. I believe it’s so a lot better now, however I do assume that there have been disadvantages to being an early adopter as a result of we discovered plenty of issues the laborious approach and we did plenty of issues unsuitable at first. Then we created habits and we even skilled success for doing issues the unsuitable approach, nevertheless it wasn’t in like a long-lasting approach. So we’ve needed to reeducate ourselves plenty of occasions by now. 

Emma: Which I believe is peaks to your level of like how it’s important to keep open to alter. As a result of as an trade adjustments, you want to have the ability to study new methods or change your habits or know that simply because that labored final yr, that doesn’t imply it’s gonna work this yr and also you’re gonna should be open to doing one thing totally different. 

Elsie: Sure, completely. Ugh, this one’s type of a private query. How will your experiences change the way you strategy the web along with your youngsters? I might simply say that I’m gonna delay it for so long as attainable, and this sort of goes with identical to my common parenting model, however I imagine in absolute honesty, so I need to educate my youngsters preemptively what to anticipate in conditions like that. I don’t imagine that I can shelter them from what the web is.

Emma: Yeah, and type of the identical factor. I’ll undoubtedly delay a smartphone or social media so long as attainable, however partly, everyone knows there’s like destructive results that may occur due to these issues to our shallowness, to the way in which that we work together with others. There are additionally some constructive issues that may occur. However to me, the principle factor that I really feel like a present I used to be given in my childhood was boredom. And at any time when I used to be bored, I might make issues or I might play and I simply wanna be sure that I give that present to my son, boredom. And I believe the web can very simply take that from you cuz there’s a lot on there. You don’t ever should be bored. There’s a lot content material to eat and issues to learn, and movies to look at, and so forth and so forth, and that’s cool.I really like the web, but in addition I believe being bored is absolutely wholesome and good, particularly whenever you’re younger as a result of it makes you create, it makes you resolve that downside by entertaining your self and determining that you just like portray otherwise you wanna study guitar or no matter it’s that you just’re into.

Elsie: I really like that. Yeah, I believe we’re very aligned in that cuz each actually recognize the way in which we have been raised. . Okay, what’s the cringest factor that you just shared earlier than you knew the web was without end? Cringest factor. God, I can’t even say it, so I’m not gonna reply this. What about you? 

Emma: I actually don’t know. I assume once I shared boyfriends who I’m clearly not with anymore, however I don’t assume that’s actually that massive of a deal. I don’t know, I’m undecided what can be probably the most cringy. There are many pictures that I’m like I want that wasn’t on-line.

Elsie: I assume I’ve one. I believe I might form of vent on-line once I was youthful, in my twenties, I might vent about issues from my day as a result of folks have been all the time like, relatable. And I assumed that was what they meant. And I didn’t perceive that being relatable on-line will not be the identical factor as being relatable to your mates. I imagine in studying issues the laborious approach I settle for it. I don’t assume I may stay my life on this mind some other approach. 

Emma: Yeah, I simply do dumb issues typically and I most likely will do extra of them sooner or later. They’re not even all in my previous and I settle for that.

Elsie: I even have a kinda related angle towards parenting. It’s like being prepared to apologize is a giant a part of it, being prepared to confess whenever you’re unsuitable. I believe makes you a greater particular person. And I believe it’s the identical factor being on-line, we’re gonna make errors. Do you ever fear about not with the ability to sustain with expertise developments? I really like this query and I’ve considered this. So brunch with Babs and the entire folks over, I don’t know, 60, who’ve made careers for themselves in social media particularly Instagram and TikTok. I believe they’re an interesting, actually inspiring group of individuals as a result of they grew up with out the web for approach longer than we did, and so they have a far more attention-grabbing perspective than we now have in regards to the adjustments and the way they discovered them. And I really don’t fear about with the ability to sustain with developments as a result of I believe that if I’m decided to remain open to alter and I’m not ashamed to ask for assist and ask silly questions. I believe that’s a giant a part of it.

Emma: I’d say that’s the most effective issues we’ve carried out in our complete profession, and particularly with regard to the web, will not be being afraid to look silly or to ask for assist or say, I don’t understand how this works. May somebody educate it to me? And simply being open to that as a result of, yeah, issues do change on a regular basis. I all the time inform folks too I’m actually not a techy particular person, which might be bizarre to folks if you already know that I work on-line and that I personal an app firm. But additionally when you consider it, I believe it is smart, many of the content material we make, we use issues like scorching glue and weapons. I’m not a very techy particular person, so I do get anxious when new issues come out and I don’t know easy methods to use them, or I attempt to use it and I can’t, and I’m like, I don’t know easy methods to work together with this on my cellphone in any respect. And I really feel like an outdated particular person. So I believe I’ve that worry like anybody, however I additionally don’t assume it needs to be one thing that holds you again. I really assume it’s like actually regular. And simply part of life and part of residing in a world the place expertise’s altering so shortly and a lot. If Babs can do it, we are able to too

Elsie: Precisely. I’m not afraid to ask for assist. And in addition I don’t really feel pressured to strive or do each single factor on social media. I skipped them on a regular basis and anybody can, it’s our selection. It’s like exploring it and being open to it, see if it may be enjoyable. See if you already know it could actually profit you and if not, then that’s superb. You realize, simply skip it or no matter. Any tales of individuals not accepting your profession as a quote? “Actual job”. Do we now have a narrative or two about this? That is humorous as a result of my complete life, like the principle factor that individuals have bullied me for, has modified over time, which is attention-grabbing, I might say each 5 years. However the very first thing, the primary unique factor for my first 5 years was folks saying that I used to be a OneNote and that I may solely do one factor. I blew it out of the water, I might say in my profession, don’t you assume? 

Emma: Yeah. I might say she will’t do one factor, it’s inconceivable. That’s my criticism. 

Elsie: However yeah, no, I might say simply common sexism each contractor who’s come into our dwelling, principally my whole life is like, the place’s your husband? And what does he do for a residing? And it doesn’t look like anybody ever considers the likelihood that I’m like a breadwinner, and I believe I’m a bread baker and a breadwinner. So yeah, I believe that’s for girls and ladies who personal companies, influencers, everybody, it’s a traditional factor. It’s such as you’re all the time gonna be diminished in your accomplishments or individuals are gonna Be like, oh, that’s cute, and also you’re like, yeah, really nice. 

Emma: I do assume whenever you work in an rising trade and likewise I believe artists get this like inventive folks get this. Folks will typically mistake your profession for a passion, and it’s comprehensible as a result of it most likely was your passion earlier than it grew to become your profession, however it could actually really feel slightly bit diminishing and irritating when folks appear to only not wanna acknowledge the likelihood that you just would possibly make some huge cash at this factor that might be a passion, nevertheless it’s not. I believe the older I get the extra I don’t care. I don’t really feel like I’ve something to show. I believe once I was youthful I needed folks to know that I’ve a job. I’m not simply somebody whose mother and father gave them some huge cash or somebody whose husband helps them. I make my very own cash and I all the time have and I’m actually happy with that and I believe I used to care lots about that and now I don’t actually care as a lot. I’m like you’ll be able to assume no matter you need. For those who wanna imagine that I don’t make any cash and I simply am a stay-at-home passion lady, that’s superb. You possibly can imagine that I don’t care. It’s like no matter to me now. 

Elsie: I believe that’s good recommendation for people who find themselves beginning off in our area in a associated area is to not count on folks to take your job critically and simply are you able to be okay with accepting that typically folks received’t as a result of I do assume it’s more healthy if you happen to can simply settle for that and never care. How did your family and friends react to you changing into web well-known? I needed to reply this query as a result of I imply this actually, nobody cares. Nobody cared. Nobody cares. Nobody has ever cared. I believe that individuals who observe us on the web at sure occasions have handled us like we have been extra well-known than we actually are, and that’s true. However no, nobody cares, nobody.

Emma: There have been moments the place I’ve been with members of the family or a good friend and somebody will come as much as me and be like, Hey, I learn your weblog. And that doesn’t occur fairly often, nevertheless it has occurred. And I believe a few of these moments abruptly my member of the family I’m with or my good friend, they’re like, oh as a result of they know what I do, nevertheless it doesn’t happen to them that individuals learn our weblog or they know folks learn our weblog, however they don’t give it some thought being colliding with actual life. And so I believe these are moments the place I do really feel kinda well-known. I’m like, yeah, I don’t even know that particular person, they simply learn my weblog. But it surely’s fairly uncommon and not likely something that’s massive. We’re actually not very well-known. 

Elsie: That’s true. We’re not being modest, we’re being correct. So may you return to no web now? And if that’s the case, do you assume you possibly can switch your profession into one thing equal, an alternate profession sort of factor? Lots of people are asking if you happen to didn’t do that, what would you do? I believe that we may do different issues. I believe I may help myself with out being on the web. And I’ve occasions once I fantasize about being utterly offline sooner or later, however at this present second, that’s not one thing that I really feel like I would like or need. I really feel like my boundaries are adequate that I can stay a wholesome life and be on-line indefinitely.

Emma: Yeah, I believe so too, I take pleasure in it. I additionally may do different issues. I believe I’ve all the time been destined to kinda do my very own factor or personal a enterprise or be part of a enterprise with somebody such as you as a result of it’s laborious to think about myself simply working someplace, company. I believe I may excel at it considerably in that I actually care, I’m an individual who cares. I all the time tried to get good grades in class, for instance, I’m not a partier, straight-A kind. I didn’t get straight A’s, despite the fact that I attempted. However I did effectively and I believe once I’m attempting to do a superb job, it’s one thing I can do fairly effectively. So I believe I might be profitable in that, I simply can’t think about myself doing it, and I’ve by no means actually had any type of conventional job, so it’s laborious to essentially think about. And I believe typically I’ve had associates ask me like, what if you happen to needed to go apply for jobs at this time? Do you assume you possibly can even try this? And I’m like, not likely. I believe my talent set is so unusual at this level cuz it’s in so many alternative areas. I don’t assume I wouldn’t have the strongest resume in some methods. I simply don’t actually fear about it cuz I don’t actually need to work for another person. I by no means have carried out it, so it’s simply kinda a international factor to me.

Elsie: Actually, I’m simply gonna say, I do assume that you just’re unsuitable and I believe that your resume can be excellent if you happen to selected to.

Emma: It might be bizarre. They might be like, are you aware easy methods to use Excel? I’d be like, barely.

Elsie: I do have the, how laborious may it’s jean? However I do assume that I may apply for a high-level job and get it, I do. I don’t know as a result of we now have plenty of expertise, nevertheless it doesn’t matter. I Don’t have FOMO about different careers. I really feel like I nonetheless have an opportunity to do the whole lot I need to do in my life and begin new issues and study new issues. So I don’t have any FOMO in any respect. That is a straightforward one to reply. Did you might have web boyfriends? Sure and sure. Achieved, okay. 

Emma: I assume so. I don’t know. Such as you met somebody on-line. 

Elsie: Yeah, you had an web boyfriend, didn’t you? Somebody who initially met on the web. 

Emma: Yeah, I believe so. I type of met him by way of your web boyfriend. I believe everybody meets folks on-line now, proper? I didn’t have any apps.

Elsie: A few of my bridesmaids have been individuals who I met from commenting on my weblog. I believe lots of people in my life are, most individuals are folks I met on-line. Most of my associates are long-distance associates. How do you navigate emotions of being a sellout? I battle with this. So to start with, I’m gonna assume this particular person’s query is totally real and never a jab at us. So don’t fear, we’re not mad. I might say that since we began doing what we do at a time when advertisements grew to become a factor, in real-time for us. So we did should navigate the primary indignant wave of backlash that individuals have been doing them in any respect. Then the various iterations of individuals attempting to determine and study and nonetheless discover ways to do it in a approach that’s real and never the best-case situation, I assume. So actually, that is one a part of being an influencer that I really feel like we’ve all the time been fairly real about. The manufacturers that we actually, actually don’t wanna work with, we’ve all the time mentioned no to and possibly there are some folks which are in a grey space slightly bit, I may say that, however I’ve by no means actually felt like a sellout. I actually can’t say I’ve felt it however I’ve been accused of it. However I actually, don’t really feel like I’ve ever felt like I used to be a sellout as a result of I really feel we’re incomes cash in a approach that’s kinda good. 

Emma: I’m additionally assuming that this particular person’s coming at it with, it is a real query and never a jab, however I’ll say I all the time discover one of these query form of ridiculous as a result of I simply assume that it’s only a option to put any person down, that’s all it’s. And it’s cool if you happen to think about your self a superb artist and also you solely earn money by promoting to museums or one thing, that’s fantastic. However I’m sorry, your privilege is displaying. A few of us simply should discover a option to make a residing and I’m happy with how I’ve carried out it. I take pleasure in my work. I’m happy with what I put out. And if you happen to think about it promoting out, I believe that’s your downside, not mine, as a result of I’m comfortable to do what I do to pay my payments and help my household. And I’ve simply all the time type of felt that approach. I believe it’s simply one other approach that individuals put down sure artwork or sure work, identical to how folks say it’s cute that you’ve got this enjoyable little passion, or, oh, you have to be a sellout as a result of your work isn’t X, Y, Z, and I believe it’s simply one other option to type of belittle and put issues down. And if you happen to’re doing that to your self, which may be the place this particular person’s seems like their query’s coming from is that they’re doing it to themselves. You must cease, you don’t want to inform your self that story. You possibly can simply be happy with the work that you just’re making and the cash that you just’re making from it, that you could simply full cease proper there. 

Elsie: That’s true, you’ll be able to imagine no matter you need to imagine about your self, and I imagine that I’m an artist like Picasso.

Emma: There you go. Then you might be and doubtless in his day folks thought he was a sellout, so I don’t know, it’s simply ridiculous. 

Elsie: Oh my God, let’s have Picasso on our podcast. He’ll most likely should be a Halloween episode. And let’s ask him, what did you get for it? And I can’t wait to listen to his solutions as a result of it’s petty. It’s bull and it’s most likely the very same stuff that individuals are nonetheless doing now to our heroes of at this time. You by no means get handled like that in real-time or no matter. I believe that working with manufacturers is absolutely enjoyable and actually regular and I imagine that we give plenty of worth that they will’t discover on different platforms, and that’s why a few of our sponsors have been with us for greater than 5 to 10 years. That’s, that’s a very long time. All proper, so let’s transfer on to the large Magic e book report. So Massive Magic is a e book by Elizabeth Gilbert, and I’ve to say I’ve it listed in my Good Reads as one in all my favourite books of all time. I believe it’ll most likely keep there my complete life. Let’s simply first clarify what Massive Magic is about. I don’t imagine that that is going to comprise any spoilers for people who find themselves keen on listening to it. I believe it’s going to most likely make you extra , however that’s simply my opinion. It’s not a repair. You possibly can’t actually spoil this, are you able to?

Emma: No, no. And if you happen to’re not conversant in Elizabeth Gilbert, she’s most likely most identified for the e book Eat, Pray, Love, a film starring Julia Roberts that got here out years and years in the past. However she’s additionally written numerous different fiction books, and I imagine one other memoir after which this e book, which is type of I don’t know if I might name it recommendation. I might name it extra like an extended pep discuss for anybody inventive. However I believe the purpose with that, I’m attempting to say is she’s an creator. However if you happen to’re like, I actually desire a e book that’s gonna pop me up creatively, however I’m not into writing, I’m a painter, I do ceramics, or no matter it’s that you just do. I believe this e book is definitely nice for anybody inventive, doing inventive work. So if you happen to’re searching for a e book that’s about creativity, possibly you’ve been in a rut, or possibly you identical to to get a pep discuss every so often, I do. Then I believe that that is one thing you would possibly actually take pleasure in if you happen to haven’t listened to it. And I listened to it like Elsie, years and years in the past. I wanna say it was like 2018, and I actually loved re-listening to it. I undoubtedly really feel slightly extra impressed and just a bit extra like, oh yeah, life is stuffed with this enjoyable, mystical magic if you wish to imagine if you happen to wanna have religion and creativity, no matter. And I don’t know, it’s simply thrilling and it, for me, was one thing good within the winter cuz this time of yr is kinda uninspiring to me. So I assumed it was an important re this time of yr. 

Elsie: So it’s an important e book and everybody has to learn it, we insist. It is rather quick too, and I’ll say Elizabeth Gilbert might be the most effective non-fiction authors I’ve heard studying her personal e book ever. Her studying may be very, very robust. I simply love listening to her voice. So that you’ll additionally love the audiobook if you happen to select to try this. And actually, even if you happen to hate studying, fake prefer it’s a podcast and it’s nearly the identical factor. You’re gonna find it irresistible. So a giant a part of the e book is introducing the concept our inventive concepts might be literal residing beings. And it’s kinda bizarre, it’s undoubtedly woo-woo and at first, it’s the form of factor that might elevate a skeptical forehead, however she offers these tales which are so compelling and I received’t spoil the tales, however that’s one in all my favourite elements of the entire e book. I’ll say, I cried two occasions whereas placing on my make-up, and listening to this e book and one in all them was her first massive magic expertise story, I find it irresistible I really like listening to it. The second factor that I really like about this e book is, okay, in order somebody who didn’t graduate from school, it’s one thing that I’ve all the time had and doubtless all the time will carry with me like slightly little bit of, I wouldn’t say it causes me self-doubt as a lot because it used to, however it’s a problem, proper? It’s prefer it’s a factor that I really feel is one thing that I’ve to beat fairly than a bonus in life.

Emma: That’s your fill-in-the-blank on, all of us have a story in our head that’s like, I’m not adequate as a result of… and yours is, I didn’t end school.

Elsie: And it’s one thing that I do really feel like I kinda missed out on. I’m not prepared to do it now. And I perceive I completely may, if I used to be prepared to do the work I may go to school anytime I needed. And I perceive that’s an possibility, nevertheless it’s not one thing that I’m keen on anymore. So anyway, on this e book and likewise within the different e book that we coated, enjoying massive. She actually tries to dispel the concept you want plenty of schooling to do inventive careers, and I discovered it actually useful as a result of I believe that it’s one thing that I’m simply all the time envious of when different individuals are classically educated, in artwork or writing or any of the issues that I’m keen on doing. However she may be very convincing that it may provide you with money owed that make your life more durable or it might be an excuse to maintain you from simply beginning the inventive challenge is the excuse of like all the time feeling such as you want an increasing number of schooling. And that’s one thing that I felt inspired by that anybody can begin at any time and also you don’t have to do a bunch of preliminary steps beforehand. 

Emma: Yeah. I believe she talks lots about greater schooling like Elsie’s mentioning, however she does another little pep talks all through the e book the place primarily I really feel like she’s type of breaking down the entire concept of like gatekeeping creativity, or in her case, gatekeeping being an creator or being a well known or well-known creator. Profitable, that’s the phrase I search for, profitable author as a result of that’s one factor that has all the time rubbed me the unsuitable approach is when folks do this sort of gatekeeping factor the place it’s like, you’re not allowed to make nice music or be a painter, or be a author except you might have an Ivy League diploma otherwise you write one of these fiction or no matter. For those who do pop music, you’re not cool and I’ve all the time disliked that. I simply actually really feel prefer it’s the other of creativity that you need to be open to no matter it’s that’s gonna come your approach and seize maintain of it and make one thing from it and make the perfect factor you’ll be able to out of your viewpoint and along with your life experiences and the particular person that you’re. And if that’s a pop track or an attractive fairy e book or no matter factor that different folks would possibly understand as low forehead. I’m doing quotes, air quotes. I simply all the time hate the type of gatekeeping, artwork is simply this, I simply assume it’s type of silly

Elsie: Pay attention, we’re not 21 years outdated. We don’t take heed to these kinds of pretend guidelines that don’t apply to us. 

Emma: I believe outdated folks do it too. I don’t assume it’s simply 21-year-olds. I believe folks of their true forties, fifties, and sixties do plenty of gatekeeping too. And I simply assume whenever you hear it, you’ll be able to go forward and dismiss it. Is anybody on the market listening? I believe it’s not related to you if it’s not related to you. And if you happen to wanna make high-brow artwork, make it. However if you happen to wanna make low forehead, make it. For those who wanna go to school for artwork, go for it. Take into consideration the debt although. And if you happen to don’t wanna go, you’ll be able to nonetheless be an artist. And I believe that’s slightly bit what Elizabeth Gilbert’s getting at within the e book, and I actually like that message as a result of I believe it says Hey, we’re all inventive and we are able to all make stuff if we would like. 

Elsie: She has a really robust case for like, don’t make artwork your job as a result of that places an excessive amount of strain on it and might scare away your creativity. And that is one thing that I really feel all of us want to listen to. Even these of us who do, like Emma and I, professionally do a inventive profession, however we nonetheless have to guard our creativity by making these little only for enjoyable initiatives. And there’s nonetheless a lot that we now have to do. I believe that lots of people by way of the years would say, for the previous 15 years, yearly folks ask me to have espresso or have a cellphone name or no matter and decide your mind and I all the time know earlier than I even sit down what they’re gonna say, they need to give up their job, nearly all the time. I believe the concept of quitting your job, is your final objective. I believe it’s good to only imagine Elizabeth Gilbert, imagine us. Imagine anybody who’s carried out it, it’s not the final word objective that you just assume it’s gonna be. 

Emma: After I assume too, alongside these strains, one of many issues I wrote down that I actually cherished within the e book was she talks lots about being comfortable and content material whenever you’re beginning out in your creativity profession and likewise whenever you’re being rejected. She talks about all of the rejection letters she would get and the way she was serving tables or engaged on a ranch and people have been the issues she did for cash so she may pay her payments and stay her life. However all of the whereas she was writing and getting rejected. However she talks about being actually comfortable and I assume how happiness to some extent, is a selection that we make. And in addition we are able to change our viewpoint round issues at occasions. She talks about when she would get a rejection letter, she would view that because the universe hitting a tennis ball again to her aspect of the court docket. So it was now her job simply to hit it proper again, so she would ship out a brand new submission when she would get rejected. And I believe that’s a good way to take a look at setbacks and rejection or moments the place you might have type of a failure, is to view it as simply the universe is sending the tennis ball to your aspect and it’s your job to only ship it proper again. Don’t surrender. 

Elsie: I cherished that as effectively. I additionally love the concept of it doesn’t matter what sort of artwork you’re making, contemplating your self a painter or a author or no matter from the primary day, not, I’m attempting to be this, I’m considering of being this, it’s like you might be doing it simply as a lot as anybody else is doing it ever. 

Emma: A few different issues I cherished from the e book, she does lots the place she does the personification of like feelings, and creativity. And I believe for her it’s extra of the idea that creativity really is that this little being, like a genius that comes to go to you. And I really like that concept. Whether or not you imagine it in a literal sense or not I believe is inappropriate. However in a single half she talks about she’s doing personification with feelings and he or she talks about, I’m getting snug together with her worry and the way she grew up a really fearful youngster. I believe all of us have worry at occasions and he or she talks about how worry will not be a nasty factor. It’s not an adversary at occasions that may maintain us secure. We’ve most likely all had these moments the place our radar goes off and we go away a sure space or one thing occurs the place it’s it retains us. So worry will not be a nasty factor, however she has this little speech that she offers her worry, she talks to it and he or she says I look after you and also you’re welcome to come back right here and provides us your concepts, however you might be by no means going to have the ability to make choices or drive the automotive. She simply units these boundaries with these feelings or these elements of herself and I really like that cuz I like the concept of accepting who we’re totally, but in addition recognizing that doesn’t imply that, let’s say worry needs to be the driving power of our life. As a result of I believe we are able to all agree that if we let worry be the driving power of our life, we’re most likely by no means going to strive for something massive. We’re by no means going to take an opportunity on like assembly new folks or altering our profession if we needed to and even I believe plenty of time I had plenty of worry round changing into a mom as a result of I used to be like, what if I suck at it? What if I don’t love my youngster? And if I had let these fears be the driving power, I most likely wouldn’t have my stunning son now. I simply assume you’ll be able to’t, it’s important to set boundaries but in addition settle for these elements of your self. And I actually love her tackle that and the way in which that she does it and the way in which she explains it within the e book. I assumed it was actually useful. After which additionally she does that with creativity, speaking about how inspiration will come to go to us, and it’s our job to seize maintain of it and assist it have an actual life. So, when you have a e book concept, it is best to write it and let that concept change into an actual e book or when you have an concept for portray, it is best to paint it. After which that concept will get to change into actual in the actual world. And we’re identical to a vessel that this concept is gonna circulate by way of, that type of factor. One factor I really like about that complete idea is, I really feel prefer it makes inventive work much less about us, much less about ourselves, and extra about communion with one thing past ourselves, one thing larger I’m not a very non secular particular person, however I do love the concept of being linked to the world by way of one thing that does matter to me, which for me can be creativity.

Elsie: I preferred her quote when she mentioned, my inventive concepts have to be an important factor on the earth to me, and likewise not matter in any respect. I believe that could be a mind-bender slightly. I imagine that it’s like it’s important to commit your self utterly to this inventive course of and stay dedicated and stay open, but in addition perceive that it’s not the top of the world, it’s not that massive of a deal. As a result of I believe lots of people can drive, myself included, drive themselves loopy, eager to make one particular concept profitable when actually, Emma and I like to take heed to success tales and other people, how I obtained began tales. And if you happen to take heed to the tales time and again, you’ll quickly study that lots of people discovered success after they least anticipated it by staying open and attempting various things, not by having this one concept that they have been obsessive about their whole life and so they have been rejected 150 occasions and the hundred 51st time it grew to become a bestseller and that’s slightly bit extra uncommon. So I like the concept if we enable the universe to information us and keep open and simply strive issues, simply strive the whole lot that’s attention-grabbing. We’ll discover our place extra naturally and we don’t should power it. So one very last thing I had down for Massive Magic is the story of a lady named Winifred who obtained keen on a complete new topic when she was 80 years outdated and have become an entire knowledgeable by the point she was 90 years outdated. And that is my long run, the primary most vital factor about who I wanna be in my golden years is the entire by no means cease studying stuff that’s so vital to me. I simply need to be beginning one thing new till I die. I wanna unfold the excellent news about that. I believe that it’s such a great way to remain open to the world for one, to maintain your self stunned and to only maintain experiencing issues that you just by no means thought you’d be keen on like 100 occasions in your life you will be obsessive about one thing that you just by no means thought you’d be keen on. What a stupendous expertise.

Emma: Yeah, and I believe too, it could actually assist with retaining your ego in examine, which all of us wanna assume we’re proper about the whole lot, or we all know the whole lot. And I believe lifelong studying is a good way to remind your self that you just don’t know the whole lot. And that’s okay and that’s good. 

Elsie: Everybody ship us a narrative when you have a giant magic expertise and don’t fear, if it’s not this yr, if it’s like 5 years from now, nonetheless ship it to me. I wanna hear them without end. Okay. So we will probably be again subsequent week with a Consolation Rewatch episode for the basic Star-Studded film, Twilight. So we’ll see you subsequent week.