Episode #171: Elsie’s Transferring Residence to Missouri
This week, Elsie is sharing an enormous private replace (a yr within the making)!
Seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m transferring again to my hometown in Missouri.
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Present Notes
Elsie is transferring!!!
Why we determined to maneuver:
-We not have a profession motive to stay in Nashville
-One in all our mother and father had a well being scare
-To see Emma and Oscar extra
Favourite issues in regards to the new home:
-Curb attraction, appears like a film home
-Hearth within the kitchen
-A number of potential
Very first thing Elsie purchased:
Lighting fixtures (classic and new). Listed here are some hyperlinks: Metal Lanterns / Hand Sconce / 3-Light Chandelier / Round Chandelier
What we are going to miss most about our residence in Tennessee:
-Mates
–Hewitt Garden and Design Center
-Our hidden library and library eating room
What Emma is worked up for:
-Working collectively
-Being a extra current aunt
-Recording the podcast collectively
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Episode 171 Transcript:
Elise: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week I’m sharing an enormous private replace a yr within the making, so seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m transferring again to my hometown in Missouri.
Emma: Dum, dum, dum, dum.
Elise: I can’t consider it. Emma was simply saying, we really feel like we’ve got been speaking about this for a yr as a result of it was like a really slow-coming resolution on our half and one thing that we’ve been engaged on for a very long time. However we wished to attend till it was very official to share it right here. So yeah, it feels unusual to lastly discuss.
Emma: Yeah, and sadly we already named an episode, “Oops, I’m transferring once more” so we will’t reuse that, however it’s true as soon as once more.
Elise: Sure, completely. So, one thing that I noticed about myself form of just lately, though it’s been occurring my total life, is that I’m obsessive about change, completely continuously. So the longest I’ve ever lived in any residence was for 4 and a half years the place we lived in our first residence in Tennessee the place we adopted our youngsters and every part. In order that’s the longest I’ve ever lived anyplace since I moved out from my mother or father’s home. However more often than not I’ve moved yearly or two, which I don’t like that about myself. I don’t condone it as way of life. I don’t suppose it’s wholesome, and it’s not what I need for my children sooner or later, however I’m admitting that it’s true. And that it’s one thing that has at all times been, I’ll at all times be only a one who has loads of itch for change. So I assume I’m gonna have to determine a strategy to categorical that in different methods.
Emma: Yeah, I believe expressing in different methods is an efficient strategy to put it. Trigger I truly don’t suppose it’s unhealthy to crave change and to need to transfer and to need a contemporary begin. I believe that’s truthfully like fairly regular. I simply suppose your life’s now at a spot, you recognize, you was like after highschool and stuff, you’re single and then you definately get married and it’s simply you two, after which, you recognize, however, and yeah, so now you’ve much more folks to think about. It impacts much more folks if you happen to transfer now than it used to, and so naturally I believe may need to vary considerably, however I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy to crave change and to need a contemporary begin. I believe that’s actually fairly regular. I simply suppose there are loads of methods to precise it.
Elise: Yeah. And I do need my children to have a childhood residence that they bear in mind as their childhood residence, not like 10. I like absolutely admit that. However anyway, we nonetheless are the place we’re proper now. So let’s inform this entire story as a result of I do know from simply having advised my shut buddies over the previous yr, I do know all of the questions individuals are gonna ask and there are such a lot of legitimate questions. So to begin out the story, why we determined to maneuver, cuz the home we stay in now, we fully find it irresistible. There’s nothing about it aside from the truth that it’s not outdated, there’s nothing about it I might change, I really like this residence. I’m actually pleased with the tasks we did. I added all my fake fireplaces and bookshelves and the hidden library, which is like my soulmate mission of my life. And we find it irresistible right here and we’ve got nothing dangerous to say about Nashville. Not one single factor, not even the bachelorettes. Nothing to say dangerous. We’ve cherished our entire eight years right here and I believe that we simply realized after we moved right here in the course of the Covid period, that Jeremy’s profession had modified. So we moved right here initially cuz my husband was engaged on his profession in songwriting. And he did loads of songwriting. He did loads of the songwriting that you just watch on television. In the event you see a film like, what’s that film with Woman Gaga? Are you aware what I imply? And Bradley Cooper.
Emma: Yeah, A Star is Born.
Elise: Sure. Like that type of factor the place folks like to take a seat down with a guitar and truly write a track collectively. Folks in Nashville do this on a regular basis, and Jeremy tried that, however it’s simply not how his artistic mind works. So he hasn’t been doing that for some time, however he would type of work just about with folks and he was nonetheless songwriting just about since I met. However over the past couple years, he began this different enterprise, which is a digital instrument enterprise. So it’s nonetheless in music, however it’s fully completely different from songwriting. However he makes like the entire pattern music for it and stuff just like the demos that they launched to show about their devices. So he’s very fulfilled, he’s doing his dream and he’s not songwriting anymore. So as soon as we began to understand that, we have been like, you recognize, we don’t want to remain in Nashville and our youngsters are on the age the place if we’re going to depart, we wanna take into consideration that now. We don’t wanna wait too lengthy as a result of I do know all mother and father have completely different opinions, however lots of people have advised me to attempt to get it accomplished as early as potential after which keep settled by their older years of college if potential. So anyway, final Christmas I bought actually bored the week after Christmas, as all of us do. And I used to be sitting on the pink home and I believe Jeremy was like working within the bed room on his songs for his firm. And I used to be like on Zillow and I do know all of it goes hill from right here. And I fell into this factor of, for days researching like principally each metropolis within the US the place I’d wanna stay, and, unexpectedly I wished to maneuver to New York. I discovered a neighborhood after which I simply fell down this rabbit gap that was months lengthy the place we have been severely contemplating transferring to New York. I bear in mind once I advised Emma we have been within the car parking zone of Shake Shack and she or he was like, properly, I assume I’ll get pleasure from visiting you in New York she felt prefer it was simply inevitable.
Emma: Often when Elsie says she’s doing one thing, I imply, in all probability your husband feels completely different, however I’m simply form of like, properly, I assume she’s doing that, so yeah. I’m not gonna discuss her out of it. So, you recognize, it’s simply taking place.
Elise: Yeah, we discovered this lovely, like I’m obsessed, excellent little neighborhood. And we visited there, we had a realtor, we did like all these steps and my husband was, Into it a little bit bit, however he was means, means, far more hesitant than I used to be. I used to be undoubtedly the one who was steamrolling the scenario a little bit bit and he was considering it over nonetheless, I assume. After which final summer season we had a scenario the place one in every of our mother and father had a well being scare that was very critical and really scary, and I might say life-changing in similar to, it was a second for me to understand that this a part of our life isn’t going to final ceaselessly and that I haven’t been spending the form of time with my mother and father and properly with my in-laws and my mother and father that I need to spend. The opposite factor that additionally was turning into clear at the moment is that Emma has a little bit child and I used to be seeing him like 5 instances a yr once I felt like I might be seeing him like 50 instances a yr or 100 instances a yr. Once I see him, he doesn’t actually acknowledge me, which is like laborious for me as a result of clearly, I wanna be a giant a part of his life, however that’s not potential in a day-to-day means once you stay in one other state. So possibly once they’re a little bit older it’s a little bit bit simpler, however that’s one other consideration I used to be considering over. So, yeah, contemplating transferring to New York was like a dream within the metropolis means, however in a household means, it was in all probability gonna make our struggles even worse.
Emma: Yeah as a result of additionally there are not any direct flights from Springfield, Missouri, our hometown, the place each her mother and father stay in her in-laws and likewise me, to New York. The closest metropolis you must go to for a direct flight I believe is Bentonville.
Elise: There are just about no direct flights anyplace aside from Florida and one or two different locations.
Emma: Which, it’s not the tip of the world to have a connecting flight, that’s actually not a giant deal. Nevertheless it’s a time of yr when there’s dangerous climate. It simply will get dicey the place it will probably form of mess up your journey or make it the place your journey is longer, however you see your loved ones even much less, you recognize what I imply? It’s simply one other problem.
Elise: So anyway, I’m gonna form of simply skip over the New York half, however I wished to acknowledge it cuz it was form of a giant a part of the yr. I advised in all probability dozens of those who we have been transferring there and we have been very critical about it for some time, however it wasn’t a long-lasting plan.
Emma: Nicely, what I believe’s humorous about that’s Elsie and I’ve been to New York Metropolis many instances for work through the years and for enjoyable. New York is clearly a very cool metropolis. Clearly, it’s very well-known. It’s in each single film ever of all time, principally. So it’s actually cool, however it’s by no means a spot that both of us was ever simply dying to stay in New York. I believe everybody has a buddy who’s like, huge cities are the place for me. And we have been by no means that means. In order that’s only one factor that I form of like about you is that you’ll open up your coronary heart to one thing that you just beforehand have been like, no. Like Elsie form of has no downside being like, oh, I used to be unsuitable about that. And now I find it irresistible. And I believe that’s form of like a enjoyable factor about you.
Elise: Thanks. Yeah, no, I wished to stay in a Victorian home in Brooklyn, which is fairly completely different from dwelling in like skyscraper in Manhattan or no matter. However yeah, it was unusual as a result of I by no means thought, however now I believe like that’s undoubtedly my coast. Like if ever sooner or later, you recognize? I’m very interested in that a part of the nation proper now. At this level, I’m simply gonna like go to there 100 instances as a result of it’s a great spot too. Anyway, so when our mother and father had the well being scare, and so my husband and I had a heart-to-heart. It was after we had gone on a household journey along with his household in the summertime. We do it like yearly for the 4th of July, and we have been driving residence and we had a heart-to-heart the place he mentioned, would you take into account transferring again to Springfield? And up till that time, in that entire eight years we had lived in Tennessee, I had a number of factors the place I used to be like, possibly we should always transfer again to Springfield as a result of there’s like, you possibly can’t stay away out of your entire household with out having these factors occasionally. It’s similar to regular. However he had by no means had that earlier than, he simply was very certain that he didn’t wanna transfer again.
Emma: He’s not a giant mover both. He’s form of a settle-down form of particular person, you recognize?
Elise: Yeah. So for no matter motive, as quickly as he mentioned it, I already knew that it was taking place, and I felt like my first response was anger as a result of I felt like I wasn’t getting a selection. So I mentioned I simply want to consider it for a few weeks. So we bought residence and I did my entire course of, which I assume I can clarify my Stalkery residence course of. I did this in New York too, however I went on Zillow for our hometown and I principally undergo each single road and have a look at each single home even when a home isn’t on the market, there’s like outdated footage from 5 years in the past or one thing of the final time it was on the market typically like 10 years in the past. And so I did that, there’s just about like one neighborhood in Springfield that we knew we appreciated, after which one different road. So just about all these homes, I’ve seen them if it’s potential too, after which we went there in particular person a few weeks later and did some actually intense strolling excursions and driving by, of each single residence. And we wrote down all of the addresses.
Emma: Couple of break-ins too. Simply kidding.
Elise: That’s humorous. And one thing I knew straight away was, I knew that we have been in all probability gonna transfer there. I used to be simply in a section of getting towards the acceptance of it. As a result of clearly, I need to, I like being round Emma and having the ability to do our work collectively as an alternative of getting to continuously journey or be actually restricted. Being round my nieces and nephews, there are a ton of them, are additionally all my children’ cousins. That may be a actually huge factor for us. After which being round our mother and father is a giant factor. And I nonetheless have a grandma who resides, which is like the very best factor ever. Anyway, I used to be open to it, however I used to be simply looking for a strategy to trick my mind into not being unhappy as a result of I used to be actually hooked up to the concept of transferring to this sure neighborhood in New York and I had gotten too far alongside and it like emotionally invested. So I noticed {that a} home popping up that was quote-unquote excellent for what we have been searching for in all probability wasn’t going to occur due to the true property this previous yr. Anybody who’s been home procuring is aware of, it’s just like the stock is sort of nothing. Like homes simply aren’t popping up after which when one does pop up, it often sells instantly. So we began considering creatively as a result of as soon as we realized we have been gonna transfer, we have been like, okay, properly we have to transfer both over Christmas or over summer season break due to children’, faculties, there’s no different time to maneuver and that’s necessary. So, I began doing letter writing. In the event you’ve ever heard of this, I’ll clarify what it’s in case you couldn’t think about that anybody would ever do that after which I’ll clarify precisely what we did. So I had heard about a few success tales up to now, however truthfully, for probably the most half, it doesn’t work. And I knew that however I additionally felt prefer it was the one possibility I had in the meanwhile, and I wished to be proactive and do one thing as a result of simply ready and seeing that there have been no homes that we might even have a look at for months and months and months and months that’s discouraging. So I used to be simply looking for a strategy to transfer it ahead in my very own means.
Emma: Yeah. Plus what have you ever bought to, you recognize, may as properly.
Elise: So we might write letters. I believe we wrote a complete of both 4 or 5, I can’t bear in mind. So how I chosen the homes was just about simply by location and understanding if the home was like some homes, we may see outdated footage from the final time it bought, and in a few of the homes, we couldn’t see something. We simply knew the tough sq. footage or we may simply see it from the skin and we have been similar to, this might in all probability work. Yeah. We knew we wished a little bit little bit of a much bigger home as a result of we prefer to have each of our workspaces in our residence. And that’s one thing that now that we’ve accomplished it so many instances, we wouldn’t compromise once more on we don’t need places of work exterior of the house. Anyway, I picked a few homes after which my husband picked a few homes. And I wrote handwritten letters to the house owners. If I may discover their names, I put their names, however often, you possibly can’t. I simply put proprietor and I knew it regarded like spam. So for individuals who stay in any form of a fascinating neighborhood, you’ll typically get these letters that form of look handwritten, however in addition they look form of pretend the place it’s like, I need to purchase your house. However you possibly can inform it’s not actual.
Emma: I’ve truly additionally, like the primary home I ever purchased, which I talked about in a earlier episode a very long time in the past, we nonetheless personal it and it’s a long-term rental. I get letters on a regular basis that’s like not somebody who desires to purchase the home to stay in it such as you. It’s extra similar to an investor, I assume. That’s simply wanting to purchase the home cuz it matches their standards or no matter prefer it’s in the fitting neighborhood or no matter. And you may form of at all times inform, cuz it does, it’ll say proprietor, it doesn’t often say my identify, however typically it says my identify. And typically they’ll look a little bit extra handwritten, however then you definately open ’em up and it’s simply very like spammy. It’s similar to, we wanna purchase your home for the bottom potential worth and preserve renting it and it’s like, okay, properly I don’t wanna promote it proper now. So yeah, I believe folks get these letters they usually can come off form of like spammy.
Elise: Yeah. So I might have my children draw on the skin of the envelope, like a little bit crown drawing, I felt like that was like a sign to point out that this can be a actual letter coming from an actual household. I didn’t put footage in it as a result of I simply personally hate it when folks ship footage once they’re making an attempt to purchase my homes. Like once you get affords with footage, I simply suppose they’re awkward, so I didn’t do this, however I do know lots of people suppose they’re candy and possibly I’m unsuitable to say that. However I simply wrote principally our household has been dwelling in Nashville for eight years and we’ve got determined to maneuver to our hometown over the following yr so if you’re in any respect and I like underlined in any respect, in promoting your home throughout the subsequent yr, please let me know and I might love to debate. And if not, you’ve a fantastic residence, you recognize all that. Have day. After which I would go away my telephone quantity and my e-mail. So I bought again three responses out of, I believe 4 or 5 letters. So I assumed that was fairly good. The primary one was saying possibly subsequent yr, which was form of the worst potential response as a result of it’s like you possibly can’t make any plan, however you’ve your hopes up a little bit bit. And I by no means heard from them once more. And it was similar to possibly subsequent yr, and the second was completely not , which I appreciated them sending me a textual content. And yeah, it wasn’t like actual pleasant, but additionally I get it they may not have identified if I used to be an actual particular person or not. After which, it might be a scammer. After which the third one was, Emma was with me once I bought this textual content. It was Jeremy’s first selection for a home, I’ll say that. Initially. So it was like out of all the homes, it was in all probability the best-located home and it was a home that I at all times drove by and like lusted after as a 20-year-old and stuff. It was simply a kind of homes that you just drive by in your hometown and also you’re like, what’s that one? Are you aware what I imply? Such as you would like to go within it sort of factor. They usually despatched me a textual content and it mentioned, concerning the property at blah, blah, blah, handle Elsie, I couldn’t consider once I opened your letter with all of the candy drawings out of your women, other than following a fantastic mess for years, you photographed our wedding ceremony in 2004. I believe we’d have been one of many final weddings after which she describes which wedding ceremony it’s after which she mentioned, my husband, Clean and I’ve been considering of transferring for some time now. After which she describes loads of her private scenario of why they wanna transfer they usually say, we might be completely satisfied to maneuver ahead and work out some particulars. Your letter has are available such a serendipitous means that I might love for this wonderful residence to go to somebody like your loved ones, who I do know would treasure it. So, yeah. It was among the finest moments ever. And I had been asking the universe for an indication as a result of I used to be nonetheless experiencing loads of regret, and unhappiness about, simply particularly not planning to maneuver to this neighborhood in Brooklyn anymore and I used to be nonetheless getting over that. So once I bought this textual content, I did take it as an indication that we have been on the fitting path, as a result of I simply suppose that, I imply, I solely photographed weddings for like two years once I was in my early twenties. It was my first enterprise. I’ve by no means heard from anybody once more. It was only a actually very long time in the past, virtually 20 years. So, yeah, I took it as a fantastic signal, after which, after that, we form of stayed in contact and it took about six months to have the ability to truly buy the home from them. So it was a protracted course of, however I believe since that second I knew that it was meant to be and that we have been on the fitting path.
Emma: Signal from the universe?
Elise: Sure. Okay. So we’re transferring this summer season and we’re simply ready to let our daughter get out of first grade earlier than we transfer, after which we are going to in all probability transfer in June-ish. And we’ve closed on our residence in Missouri already. So now we’ve began doing a couple of renovations there, and I don’t suppose it wants an overhaul. I realized a giant lesson two years in the past once I began a giant main renovation in October. So for this residence, I simply wanna transfer in a clean means and revel in Halloween and revel in Christmas. After which after that, I may see us beginning a giant renovation in possibly January or so. However I don’t need to interrupt Christmas or the vacations like ever once more with renovating it wasn’t value it to satisfy in any respect. So, it’s gonna be a contented summer season. I noticed this week that we’ve got been planning this transfer and likewise we promised our daughter for her birthday in June that we might get a pet. So then I noticed that like I believe I volunteered to get a pet the week that we transfer, which possibly wasn’t a good suggestion, however can be now It’s type of set in stone. She’s actually enthusiastic about it.
Emma: Yeah. So she’s bought names picked out. It’s taking place. Yeah. It won’t be the very best timing, however who’s ever gonna remorse getting a pet? Come on, what are you able to do?
Elise: It’s true. So yeah, I really feel like we bought our signal. We bought the proper home for us. So possibly I ought to describe the home just a bit bit. So we needed to wait two months after we first texted the house owners to enter the home in particular person to look, and I might say, that the toughest a part of the entire course of was simply ready as a result of we had just about agreed with them that we might purchase their residence, however we had by no means seen it earlier than. And there have been some footage on-line that we may have a look at, however they have been older and we didn’t know, like how a lot had it been up to date since that point. So once we went in it for the primary time, the primary and solely time, it was October. It was such a surreal expertise. We took our youngsters to my mother’s home for the day as a result of we didn’t need. Like, I don’t know. I believe it’s form of laborious to take a look at a home with children, but additionally I wished them to see it for the primary time when it was both empty or with their stuff within the bedrooms. I believe it’s tougher to think about for little children when there’s like a completely furnished residence. So a couple of first impressions, the factor that we love in regards to the residence probably the most is the curb attraction. It appears form of precisely like the house from the Household stone, the film has a little bit tiny little bit of father of the bride. It’s similar to the proper prefer it appears like a film home from the skin, which is, it’s actually cute, which is like Final Elsie Dream. And, you recognize, I like actually, actually wished an outdated residence. So this residence was constructed within the early 19 a whole bunch and it is extremely outdated within it. The surface of it is extremely conventional. I believe that it’s technically a colonial revival, however some folks have a look at it and suppose farmhouse too, cuz it has huge porches that form of wrap. After which on the within, it has a couple of unbelievable authentic options. It has a staircase that’s beautiful on the entry. It has a hearth within the kitchen, which is like my factor that I freaked out about once I noticed it and understood as a result of that’s one in every of my desires is having a hearth within the kitchen. It’s similar to the fanciest, Nancy Meyers. Yeah. And aside from that, it has actually loads of potentials to be improved as a result of it’s been renovated rather a lot and it’s fairly plain. The options are fairly plain. There’s virtually no crown molding and issues like that that you’d count on from a house, from its period. So I may see us including much more like historic particulars, however something that we’re preserving, after which we will certainly add extra.
Emma: Have you ever purchased something for the home but? Like what was the very first thing you acquire?
Elise: Ooh. Okay, to date we had our closing final week and I met with a wooden flooring particular person, so I bought that booked, which was thrilling and I picked a specialty wooden flooring for the entryway, which is form of just like the diamond sample, you’ve in all probability seen them like a painted on diamond sample, however the one which we’re doing is with two colours of stain. So it’s a little bit bit extra delicate. I believe it’ll be actually fairly, I hope and the factor I’ve purchased to date is barely lighting fixtures. So I requested my in-laws if I may begin transport lighting fixtures to their residence, and I don’t suppose they knew what they have been saying sure to. There are loads of bots within the residence which have modernized lighting fixtures, so I’ve been shopping for virtually all vintage lighting fixtures to modify. After which a couple of conventional ones, so possibly I can present a pair within the present notes this week. I believe that might be enjoyable. Principally, I’ve been looking for vintage ones from Etsy and that’s been loads of enjoyable. That’s in all probability one in every of my prime favourite issues to buy vintage stuff for certain. I haven’t purchased anything but.
Emma: Nicely, what do you suppose you’re gonna miss most about your home that you just’re presently dwelling in? Or possibly like what you’re gonna miss most about Nashville, Tennessee typically as a result of it’s such a fantastic city.
Elise: Yeah. Okay. So what I’m gonna miss about Nashville, clearly, like I’ve some actually particular buddies right here that I’m gonna miss. However so far as like companies, I’ve this restaurant known as spares, that’s my final, we go there for birthdays and celebrations and it’s actually particular. We love Dinos, there are loads of cute boutiques right here. Our buddy has a boutique in East Asheville known as Apple and Oak. There are loads of particular locations that we’re gonna miss and undoubtedly Hewitt the backyard heart. It’s one in every of my final favourite locations I really like, I at all times joke that I moved to this facet of city to only be subsequent to that Backyard Middle, which isn’t actually a lie. It’s wonderful. It’s so, so beautiful. So I’m gonna miss so many issues, however so far as our residence, I believe the hidden library is the factor that’s the toughest to depart. So we knew that we weren’t gonna keep at the start once we first began that renovation. So I’ve identified the entire time. The opposite factor I’m gonna actually miss about this house is the library eating room. I used to be so happy with that, I had a lot enjoyable placing it collectively, and virtually all of the books are spooky. It was enjoyable, that was a dream mission. And general, I really like this residence. If we have been staying in Tennessee, I might keep right here ceaselessly. It’s residence and it actually works. I’m gonna miss so many issues about it. And somebody requested me like if you happen to may transport your house, would you, and like in comparison with the house that we’re transferring to, I believe I nonetheless simply wished an outdated residence so dangerous that I possibly would change, however that’s actually the one factor. The one motive so many individuals don’t even like outdated properties, you recognize? The place we stay in Tennessee it’s not an outdated residence space, it’s a brand new residence space. It’s like every part’s new and it appears very nice. And so I believe that whoever strikes right here will find it irresistible for what it’s. They usually’re in all probability not an individual who desires like 120-year-old residence.
Emma: However hopefully they need a really adorned residence cuz yours accomplished. Which is sweet, I believe. However thanks.
Elise: It’s been enjoyable exhibiting it. We’ve been engaged on promoting it for some time and the suggestions is often very nice, however for lots of people, I do suppose it’s loads of wallpaper and stuff. So I believe that the house will must be both renovated or going to somebody who likes wallpaper however I don’t have any regrets in any respect about that. Though I do know not everybody likes wallpaper. I simply suppose it appears so good on this residence. So I might reasonably it go to somebody who simply sees that and likes it. However you recognize, in the end I don’t get to choose and it form of doesn’t matter. It’s not gonna be my residence anymore.
Emma: Yeah. Nicely, it’s not the costliest factor to take away the wallpaper if you happen to don’t like wallpaper. Yeah, I imply, there are far more costly adjustments you could possibly have made these folks would’ve been like, oh, properly, you recognize, that’s like true ripping out tile or backsplashes or counter tops, these are far more costly than wallpaper.
Elise: However yeah, we’re undoubtedly gonna miss it. And it’s like undoubtedly unhappy. And I may see us coming to Nashville quite a bit sooner or later, and we at all times got here right here quite a bit earlier than we lived right here. It’s a fantastic place. I don’t really feel able to say goodbye to it in any respect, so I’m simply not going to.
Emma: Yeah, Nashville is superior. I’m certain we’ll go to lots. It’ll be enjoyable. And in some methods too, cuz you’ll have like form of contemporary eyes.
Elise: That’s true. There are much more inns in Nashville now. Once we first moved right here, there have been one or two cool inns. Now there are like 10. So I believe that’s cool too. We will come keep in one of many fancy new inns and get room service and that’ll be actually completely different.
Emma: Yeah, and you’ve got fairly a couple of like actually good buddies there, so it’s not such as you’ll by no means go to cuz you’ll wanna see your folks. So yeah, like Ting and Jason. So anyway, I’ll say a few issues I’m enthusiastic about.
Elise: Oh yeah. I wanna hear. Everybody desires to listen to your perspective. That’s just like the primary factor folks ask me is how does Emma really feel? What does Emma suppose? So say it.
Emma: Oh, that’s candy. I assumed it was cool that you just wished to stay in New York. Like I mentioned, I believe it was neat how a lot you had modified your thoughts on it from different instances we’d visited New York and I might’ve cherished visiting you there. However I bear in mind once you advised me, I bear in mind considering. Oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. Not as a result of I don’t wanna go to New York or as a result of it’s an excessive amount of cash or one thing, however ever since I had Oscar, I simply have visited Nashville quite a bit much less. It’s simply laborious to be away from him. And naturally, we’ve introduced Oscar to Nashville a couple of instances, and we’ll keep for longer when we’ve got him there with us. However that’s additionally form of difficult differently too, you recognize? So I used to be similar to, oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. So I believe that the factor that I’m most enthusiastic about with you transferring house is I’ll get to see you extra, which is nice for work in fact as a result of we will batch work collectively fairly quickly we’re desirous to do the factor with our podcast the place we report collectively and we will movie it so we will put it on like YouTube or various things like that, which I believe might be actually enjoyable. However greater than something, I’ve simply felt like since I turned a mother, I’ve quite a bit much less time to be an aunt and it makes me actually unhappy as a result of I really like being an aunt. It’s the very best, and I simply don’t depart residence as a lot or as actually because once I do, I don’t see my son, and that’s at all times laborious. And so understanding that you just guys might be on the town, it’s like, oh, properly I can simply carry him over Saturday mornings and I can decide up some McDonald’s hash browns on the way in which, and I’ll be goldie’s hero. It’s simply simpler. Will probably be a lot simpler to get in some ant time, after which additionally simpler for work stuff too. In order that’s actually thrilling. And I really feel like we talked about this sooner or later, however, so after school, I moved to Los Angeles for a couple of years, solely like three years. So not so long as you’ve lived in Nashville in any respect and it’s a totally completely different season of my life. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have children. Entire completely different age, blah, blah, blah. However I bear in mind once I moved residence feeling form of melancholy about it at first. Not as a result of I didn’t like Springfield, cuz I used to be excited to maneuver residence and work with you. We have been actually beginning a fantastic mess again then, which it’s truly known as Pink Velvet, we had a neighborhood retailer. We do a variety of issues with it. However anyway, so I used to be enthusiastic about that. I used to be excited to see my household extra. However I believe one thing about dwelling within the city you grew up in, one thing about it feels a little bit bit like, oh, I didn’t make it farther than this. Are you aware what I imply? Just like the literal distance, which now that I’m, possibly you don’t really feel this manner cuz you’re older and extra mature than I used to be at that age. I believe I used to be like 25 or six when this was occur. However now I don’t actually even really feel prefer it issues the place I stay. I believe when it comes to much more of like what I need from life so far as like a profession and a household. And to me, dwelling someplace that’s a little bit bit simpler to see household and simply being sincere right here, a little bit bit cheaper than another areas of the nation. It makes it simpler to journey and see issues that I possibly wouldn’t see as a result of if I used to be dwelling in a dearer place, which for me Los Angeles was much more costly than dwelling in Springfield, Missouri, I simply didn’t have as a lot cash to do issues that I wished to do. And I believe that’s modified with each time and age, but additionally similar to the realm. So, anyway. I don’t actually know the place I’m going with this, I’m simply type of saying some possibly encouraging issues, possibly not, I don’t know, however similar to, I don’t know. I believe typically it feels a little bit melancholy to maneuver again to the place you’re from, however it’s truly been among the finest issues I ever did and I hope it feels that means for you. I believe it should.
Elise: Thanks for sharing that. That’s actually candy. Yeah, I virtually didn’t put the New York half into the story. I don’t really feel able to leaving it out. That’s why I put it in, however I virtually didn’t put it in as a result of I don’t need to get one million feedback which are like, it is best to have moved to New York. I do know that it’s a greater metropolis with extra alternatives for my youngsters, like a extra thrilling place. Like I do know that clearly. I didn’t need them to be in contrast as a result of you possibly can’t examine them and they need to by no means be in contrast. A small city in Missouri ought to by no means be in comparison with New York Metropolis. However for me I don’t really feel unhappy, I don’t suppose in the identical means, however the motive why one in every of our huge causes was that after getting children and we’ve got a dedication to seeing our household being there for the vacations, being there, there are a number of instances all year long once we’re at all times in Missouri. So we just about felt like we lived in Nashville, however we spent all of our trip time going to Missouri and we actually did, partly it was due to Covid, however partly it’s simply because we don’t have sufficient capability. We have now hardly traveled anyplace with our youngsters apart from going to Missouri time and again for the previous 4 years. That is without doubt one of the causes, I don’t know if it’s a motive why we’re transferring, however it’s a giant benefit of it or a giant professional from the professionals and cons checklist. Is that we gained’t must journey anymore for Christmas and for each single summer season. We often go about 4 or 5 instances a yr and as an alternative of getting to satisfy these obligations, we might be capable of go to different locations, which is what we actually need to do. After which for these holidays and stuff, we might simply already be there as a result of we stay there. I believe that was a reasonably compelling motive for us as a result of we do wanna journey with our youngsters and we need to go to a a lot greater number of locations. And once we thought of dwelling in New York, which is a spot with an enormous quantity of tradition and alternatives for our youngsters. However we wouldn’t actually be capable of go anyplace aside from staying there and going again to Missouri on a regular basis to satisfy our obligation. So anyway, that’s for certain a giant motive. And anybody who lives away out of your hometown, away from your loved ones, who has children I do know, understands, it’s a sophisticated give and take and that we’re all simply making an attempt to make these two issues join.
Emma: Yeah. And there’s like no excellent place to stay typically. And in addition like anybody who would go away you a remark like, it is best to stay right here reasonably than right here to your children. That’s simply foolish. They don’t know your children, they’re not their mother and father. That’s simply ridiculous. So I don’t suppose you really want to fret about that. I believe you’re giving your children a fantastic childhood and plenty of alternatives to see their household, to see various things on the planet to develop their pursuits. I’m not apprehensive about them, so that you don’t must be both.
Elise: Thanks. We’re doing our greatest and it’s undoubtedly the happiest time of my life I’m enthusiastic about this subsequent season. I believe that we’ll be capable of obtain loads of our targets and be capable of give a little bit bit extra to our youngsters when it comes to household time, touring, yeah, a number of various things. So we had a factor down right here that was like, how is that this gonna have an effect on a fantastic mess or a podcast? So yeah, I believe that it’s gonna have an effect on a fantastic mess in a reasonably considerably constructive means. Emma wouldn’t say this, however I can admit it, that she was like, carrying every part for a very long time, particularly since I had children. However truthfully earlier than that too, she at all times visited me much more than I visited her and she or he would come for devoted work time. Once I would come to Missouri, I wouldn’t have time to work cuz we might be doing all of our household obligations. I believe that Emma was making it work for us to work lengthy distance, after which when she turned a mother, it began to develop into clear that I couldn’t simply ask her to return anytime I wished anymore and that wasn’t going to maintain working. So we simply weren’t gonna see one another as a lot, which additionally is okay. I believe that we may have stored working lengthy distance. I don’t suppose it was dysfunctional like we bought good at it, however I believe that so far as desirous to be a quote unquote model collectively, simply taking images and movies collectively is a lot tougher once you’re combining it into like 5 instances a yr that you just see one another. Are you aware what I imply? Then when you are able to do it on a daily Tuesday. So I do suppose that it’ll in all probability have an effect on our weblog enterprise and the podcast in a very constructive means, simply because the comfort degree is gonna go up a hundredfold. Yeah. And we’re gonna begin doing the video podcast, which I’m enthusiastic about. We’re gonna begin recording collectively in particular person. We have now accomplished it earlier than a couple of instances. It’s kinda like good like I believe the power is a little bit bit completely different and I don’t know, I’m used to this, so I don’t really feel like there’s like an issue with it. I believe we’ll simply be like in a extra comfy routine and I believe it’ll come off that strategy to our viewers.
Emma: Yeah. I don’t know if it’s gonna really feel that completely different for our viewers. I believe it should, however I believe greater than you suppose they’ll discover something. I believe greater than something it’ll really feel higher to us. It’ll simply be simpler in some methods, and possibly they gained’t even see it, which is completely high-quality. You don’t must see how straightforward or laborious work is. However hopefully, it at all times appears straightforward from the skin. However I believe it is going to be, I believe it’ll really feel simpler for us. In order that’ll be good. It’ll be nice. It’ll be superior.
Elise: I believe so too. I’m excited. I really feel like, I’m additionally nonetheless shocked, like I’m nonetheless so shocked that it’s even taking place, however I believe it’s gonna be wonderful and, I can’t wait to point out the home, so I’ll put a little bit one thing on my Instagram as we speak, so you possibly can see just a bit peek and yeah, over the following few months we’ll share much more. I’m not like Emma, I don’t really feel as personal about my home. I like sharing it for enjoyable. I’m so excited. Nicely, let’s go on then to our new section. A joke or a truth with Nova. All proper. We’re prepared for a joke or a truth with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: So I’m going to just do jokes as we speak. Okay. After which subsequent week I’m gonna begin my truth and jokes. Okay. So why did a cookie go to the physician? As a result of he was feeling a little bit bit crummy. Oh, that’s one. And the way do you propose a celebration in area, you planet.
Elsie: All proper. Thanks a lot for listening. I’m so excited to share this journey with you. Subsequent week we’ll be again for half two, sharing extra particulars about long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee residence able to checklist, and what’s taking place with the Pink Home. We’ll even be sharing our e-book report for this time tomorrow. So if you happen to’re studying in real-time, right here is your warning.
Emma: End your e-book. Folks have been speaking about it.