Episode #173: The 12 Week Yr
This week, we’re doing a deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many instances on this present—the e-book The 12 Week Year. So if you’re within the temper to speak about objective setting, then this episode is for you!
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Present Notes
Why a 12-week objective is healthier:
-Lengthy deadlines can really feel very daunting and result in procrastination.
-You may break up your objectives into seasons so that you do extra work on them when you could have extra time and fewer when you find yourself busier.
The vital elements of the 12-week 12 months:
-Making your imaginative and prescient (be certain it’s clear and measurable).
-Develop your plan (break up your objective right into a sequence of small objectives).
-Accountability and maintaining rating
-Checking in
Elsie’s prime 5 strengths:
-Catalyst
-Optimist
-Philomath
-Thinker
-Timekeeper
Emma’s prime 5 strengths:
-Philomath
-Timekeeper
-Focus Knowledgeable
-Deliverer
-Thinker
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Episode 173 Transcript:
Emma: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week we’re doing one other deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many instances on this present. It’s the e-book, the 12 Week Yr. So when you’re within the temper to speak about objective setting, this episode is for you. And we’re additionally gonna discuss just a little bit concerning the Excessive 5 check, which we’re gonna discuss our outcomes, Elsie’s outcomes, my outcomes, and how one can take the check when you’re .
Elsie: I’ll clarify the general idea of the 12 Week Yr. So the 12 week 12 months is a objective setting methodology that goes by quarter. So 12 weeks is one quarter, proper?
Emma: Yeah, it’s three months.
Elsie: Yeah. So 12 weeks is each three months. The factor I really like about that is while you set your objectives only for the brand new 12 months, the start of every 12 months. To start with, it may be like a procrastination factor the place you don’t have a brilliant strong January, that type of occurs to me yearly. You’re like, I didn’t actually obtain my objective in January, so I suppose I’m simply not going to have an ideal 12 months this 12 months.
Emma: So I suppose I’ll simply wait, quit for subsequent January.
Elsie: Proper. So while you do it each three months, you simply have 4 instances the recent begins, 4 instances extra recent begins than you do annually, which I really like. And the opposite factor is that the majority objectives that you just wish to obtain in a 12 months, you truly may obtain or make main headway in simply three months. You don’t actually need a 12 months for many objectives, and even when you do want a 12 months, you may at the very least do one a part of your objective then do the following half. Part them off in your subsequent quarter? I believe that the twelfth week 12 months was actually, actually useful for me, it’s only a mindset shift. And I really like New Yr’s objectives personally. I’m not a type of individuals who’s like, I’m not a decision individual. I’m positively a decision individual. I’ll at all times take an opportunity to set a objective. . However I believe that that is simply extra sensible and it really works higher. And the opposite factor that they do loads within the 12 week 12 months is behavior monitoring. So there’s lots of journaling and lots of like monitoring of your progress. And that’s one thing that works actually good for my persona as a result of I type of just a little little bit of a perfectionist factor the place if I don’t do one thing day-after-day, then I really feel like that I’ve already failed. And having the ability to see that doing one thing three to 5 instances per week is in some methods higher as a result of it’s like attainable as a substitute of unattainable, and it’s simply pretty much as good as doing one thing day-after-day. I believe that having requirements you can by no means obtain might be one of many greatest enemies of success that many people have. Yeah, I discovered the e-book. In the event you haven’t learn it, I might positively advocate it, however you may most likely additionally simply take heed to this episode and take like the primary excessive factors from it as a result of it’s fairly easy.
Emma: Yeah, it’s fairly easy. And it’s not an extended e-book too. So the 12 week 12 months has like an internet site the place you may as well join a publication and I’ve signed up for it years and years in the past. It’s type of a type of newsletters the place they’ll ship like ideas and tips right here and there or type of like check-ins, issues like that. So anyway, I prefer it. If I don’t have time, I don’t learn ’em. But when I’ve time and I do learn them, I often discover them like useful. So anyway, you probably have any curiosity in that, simply so you recognize that’s out there, it’s free. Okay. So I used to be simply gonna go forward and go over just a few issues which might be type of just like the case for a brief deadline , as a result of that’s just about it. Is the 12 week years like, Hey, let’s have shorter deadlines as a substitute of this 12 months lengthy deadline. Sure, and I believe so many of those you type of already hit on along with your synopsis of the 12 week 12 months, and I believe that’s type of attention-grabbing. So I’ll undergo these type of rapidly, however be at liberty to elaborate if you wish to, however yeah. Okay, so lengthy deadlines can actually simply result in lots of procrastination. If you recognize you could have a complete 12 months to do one thing and possibly you don’t actually need a 12 months to do it, then you definitely’ll find yourself procrastinating. So you find yourself being like, oh, I’ll get to it, after which come October you’re like, oh crap, I higher actually work on this objective as a result of I’m right through the 12 months and you possibly can have simply completed it rapidly after which moved on to your subsequent factor. Additionally, I believe lengthy deadlines can typically imply that our priorities or our life actually modifications, and I don’t learn about you, however that’s the place I get actually hung up, is that if I’ve made a objective after which my life actually does change and it makes extra sense for me to alter that objective. Generally I get it in my head that I’m giving up or I failed, or I’m making an excuse to not end my objective when the reality is that this objective simply doesn’t serve me anymore as a result of I made it six months in the past and my life was completely different six months in the past.
Elsie: I’ve this downside actually unhealthy, having the ability to settle for placing a pause button on objectives has been very beneficial for me. Earlier than that, I actually had the mindset that if I wasn’t doing all the pieces proper now, like if somebody says, how’s your pottery going? Proper now, I haven’t made pottery for greater than a month, I might really feel like panicked in like a failure. However now, that I’ve my pause button in place and I do know that like we’re exhibiting our home completely always and that’s why I can’t get my pottery stuff out as a lot as I needed to, I used to be leaving it out for months at a time. It’s simply not my productive season for that proper now and it is going to be once more sooner or later. There’s lots of good thoughts stuff, extra mindset stuff on this e-book, particularly for individuals who will be like very laborious on your self or like an all or nothing persona.
Emma: Yeah, I believe that it’s lots of mindset modifications and actually constructive ones usually. As a result of, yeah, there’s simply lots of guilt that may come into objective setting and I actually assume that’s not useful, so discovering methods to do away with that’s actually good. Okay, so one other factor, lengthy deadlines can even really feel actually daunting. So when you actually do make a objective that’s gonna take you a 12 months to perform it, it’s most likely a extremely huge objective. Except you break it down into small objectives, you’re most likely gonna really feel overwhelmed, and that may even result in you giving up. So alongside these strains, I believe lengthy deadlines, once they’re completed efficiently, they actually simply are a sequence of brief deadlines. In the event you’re your objective is, like Elsie loves pottery, I’m attempting to jot down a e-book. So if I’m like, my objective is to jot down a e-book, it’s like, okay, properly the first step is like define, step two, chapter one, you recognize, nonetheless many chapters, it’s a sequence of small objectives alongside the best way. And so I believe the 12 week 12 months in some methods is simply an acknowledgement that with the intention to accomplish one thing huge in a 12 months or 5 years or no matter, you’re on the deadline. You’re simply gonna have a bunch of small objectives alongside the best way, and so that you would possibly as properly simply consider it as, okay, properly what’s my 12 week plan right here as a result of I acquired three months to do X, Y, Z. So this type of ties into all of it, however I like quarterly objectives partly as a result of I believe, and I particularly assume this for our work, there’s simply completely different elements of the 12 months. Perhaps it’s as a result of I stay someplace with the 4 Seasons, possibly it’s as a result of I’ve a child, and so like college and daycare will be completely different at completely different instances and there’s holidays. I don’t know. However for me, I really feel like I can actually go loopy for work in Q1 and Q2 after which Q3 and this autumn there’s, there may be lots of work, however there’s much more like household time and holidays and issues like that. And I like having the ability to type of consider issues in that method. So then I don’t really feel unhealthy in let’s say this autumn, I’m not working fairly as a lot cuz I’ve lots of vacation stuff going if I type of knew that and I actually busted my in Q1 and q2, now I’m like, oh, I’m on observe. You realize, my objectives in This autumn should not as profession, they’re extra household cleansing the home, preparing for visitors, no matter, they’re extra in that vary. And I can have that 12 weeks be one thing that is smart for my 12 months versus this 12 months lengthy objective that has to embody all these completely different seasons, and it virtually doesn’t make sence.
Elsie: I believe that in This autumn for our enterprise, we type of do have to enter survival mode yearly as a result of it’s often after we do virtually all of our advertisements, so that you don’t get to select your content material as a lot as you do that time of 12 months. Yeah, I utterly agree, which is like advertisements and household stuff.
Emma: Yeah. You’re like, what’s do and what’s happening with my household? That’s all I’ve time for. You realize, it’s enjoyable, but it surely’s a sure season and I believe when you’re anticipating to do lots of deep work for the long run, you’re simply not gonna get to do it that quarter, I by no means do. So anyway, that’s what Q1’s for. So these are type of my case for the brief deadline, so hopefully we’ve swayed you. I really feel like we most likely did.
Elsie: I believe everyone seems to be swayed, I positively am, I might by no means return. I believe that it’s very compelling. There’s actually nothing that’s higher about lengthy deadlines. No, there’s actually nothing.
Emma: No. Yeah, it’s a great methodology. I agree.
Elsie: Case’s closed.
Emma: Case’s closed, so all people’s on board, good. Okay, so then I simply needed to speak about, to me the vital elements of the 12 week 12 months, some issues he hits on within the e-book and issues that may enable you achieve success as you’re making your objectives for the following 12 weeks. Okay, so the primary one is making your imaginative and prescient. How do you resolve what to work on? How do you resolve what objectives you need? Okay, so I believe some issues that assistance is now that you recognize that you’ve got 12 weeks you could be a little extra practical about what you will get completed in 12 weeks. So that you’re not essentially going to be making a objective that’s like, I’m going to learn 80 books and go to the fitness center 100 instances or no matter.You simply know that that’s not gonna occur in 12 weeks. So now you may focus just a little extra on what’s practical to occur in these 12 weeks. And I might additionally say as you’re making your imaginative and prescient, your objectives, I love to do them in a bunch of various areas. So I prefer to type of have completely different buckets of like, right here’s my private life, which incorporates like hobbies and self care. And typically additionally like well being and wellness stuff, like going to the fitness center or no matter. Then I consider household, which is generally stuff with my son, but it surely’s different issues too. And I type of put buddies in there too, so if a pal’s having a birthday or if a pal’s going by means of a tough time, I wanna make time to be there for them or do one thing, and I take into consideration profession. So what am I attempting to perform these subsequent 12 weeks at work. Is there one thing that we’re constructing? Is there some type of huge deadline? Is there one thing that I’ve been wanting to start out and end? Or at the very least begin, you recognize, once more, you solely have 12 weeks. So what are we getting completed in these 12 weeks, that type of. So I prefer to have completely different buckets that’s how I give it some thought. However one thing that I believe is de facto vital while you’re making objectives is to ensure that it’s clear and measurable. I believe when you’re like, okay, on the finish of those 12 weeks, let’s say you’re engaged on some psychological well being stuff, you’ve had a tough time and also you’re attempting to work on that. Not that that’s essentially me, precisely and I’m simply utilizing myself right here’s an instance, let’s simply say. So when you make the objective, I simply wanna really feel higher in 12 weeks. It’s like, properly, Good objective not precisely very clear. Not precisely very measurable but. What do you actually imply by that? And if it’s like, properly, I wanna really feel higher, I wanna have much less days the place I’m feeling actually down. I wish to really feel extra hopeful. So attempt to outline it just a little bit extra, after which take into consideration what are some issues that you possibly can measure in that as a result of measuring a sense is de facto laborious, that may be very tough. However as a substitute take into consideration like, I wish to be certain I am going to remedy each month. Okay, so then you definitely’re gonna go to remedy 3 times within the subsequent 12 weeks, okay? That’s measurable. Nice, you possibly can do this. I wish to spend extra time with buddies. I wish to get some sunshine. I wish to work on endorphin stuff. So possibly that’s, I’m gonna do some cardio, I’m gonna go to the fitness center. I’m gonna begin operating no matter factor that you just assume is gonna assist. That is your objectives, however make them measurable issues you can truly know when you achieved it or not, when you did it or not. As a result of while you get to the top of the 12 weeks, you’re gonna take inventory. You’re gonna say, oh, did I make it? Did I get all of the issues completed? And it’s not that you just’re attempting to make this huge to-do record and simply undergo the motions. But when issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it could be actually laborious to know in case your like, when you get to the top of the 12 weeks and also you’re like, I don’t really feel higher, then you definitely’re gonna wanna know why. So is it that you just did all of the issues and people didn’t assist and now you’ve gotta attempt one thing else? Or is it that you just didn’t do the issues, you bought sidetracked, you bought distracted, possibly one thing occurred the place you couldn’t, one thing main modified in your life, that occurs. But when it issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it’s gonna be actually laborious to know why it labored or didn’t work. Okay, in order that’s type of about making your imaginative and prescient. Then the following is when you type of have your imaginative and prescient, develop your plan. So break up your objective right into a sequence of small objectives, so issues for every month and even every week. And I believe while you’re excited about 12 weeks, that is a lot simpler than while you’re excited about a complete 12 months as a result of typically I’ll make a large record that’s for the entire 12 months. Elsie and I do that loads for weblog posts, we’re like, right here’s a thousand weblog posts I wanna write as a result of we simply get enthusiastic about concepts. So we at all times have method too many concepts and I like to make an enormous record like that. I believe it’s actually enjoyable, it makes me really feel excited. It makes me really feel like the long run’s stuffed with potentialities. So I believe that’s a great train for these causes. Nevertheless it comes to really executing, so this week for instance, I’m sick. So I had someday the place I used to be mainly off cuz I used to be simply actually sick and couldn’t actually work. So then it’s like, okay, I’m gonna take a look at my record and I now have these hundreds of concepts and solely 4 days to work, what may I get completed? Whereas as a substitute, when you had these 5 issues to do that week, is there one which you’ll want to take off the record since you had been sick. Then you definitely simply get to maintain shifting ahead and it simply makes it loads sooner and simpler to comply with if you recognize the place you’re going after which you can also make faster changes versus this big, big grasp plan and also you get a barely astray and now you’re tremendous astray.
Elsie: Yeah, I agree. I believe it is a little little bit of a great time to say my post-it methodology. Oh by the best way, Podcast listeners attempt to diagnose me with h ADHD type of loads. I’m like, I do know that I most likely have ADHD so lI get it. In all probability lots of people have undiagnosed ADHD. So you probably have any hassle with focusing, I believe the large record, like my weblog publish record for the 12 months of what I wanna do, it’s stapled collectively, it’s three pages of typed textual content it like it isn’t one thing that I want to have a look at each week. So for me to have a look at a small record of about 5 issues, like sufficiently small to suit on a post-it is what my mind can deal with after which I can select one thing to really work on. So I believe that when you’re an individual who will get simply overwhelmed by an extended record, simply don’t take a look at the lengthy record that always. Each few weeks you may go in and decide some issues from it and hold your self on a small record. I believe it’s only a trick you are able to do on your self that basically works.
Emma: Sure, I agree and I believe too, it simply makes it the place all people’s busy. All of us have limitations in our life, irrespective of for what cause. And I believe that for instance, once I’m writing a e-book, as soon as I’ve the define, I instantly really feel method much less overwhelmed as a result of if I’ve two and a half to 3 hours the place I can work on this at present, that’s all I’ve. I’m not gonna get to work on it extra possibly this entire week,however then I take a look at my define and I’m like, oh, chapter 4 I really feel like I actually have a deal with on that. I’m gonna write that proper now, and I do it after which it’s completed. And it’s like that’s one thing that now simply moved my entire undertaking ahead in a significant method. Did I end the entire e-book? No, however did I write a chapter? Sure I did within the time that I’ve. And so, and that’s, , you recognize, form of it’s like attempting to interrupt down these huge issues that we wanna do in life into smaller chew dimension issues in order that we will truly get them completed. As a result of life is stuffed with numerous different issues which might be by no means gonna be on our record, however we nonetheless need to do them, and that’s simply what life’s like and it’s okay. Okay, so develop your plan and that may assist, break down your objective into very small objectives. They are often weekly, month-to-month, they’ll even be each day. I might say too, don’t really feel like they need to be so inflexible as a result of I believe when you do have a really, like each single day this should occur. That doesn’t depart you a lot house for getting sick, or in case your child will get sick or you could have a snow day or the web goes out at your own home and you’ll’t work on the factor you had been gonna work on. You need to depart some margin to let life occur, otherwise you’re actually gonna stress your self out, so do this too.
Elsie: Yeah, concentrate on the large wins for positive. So long as I can get this a part of my record completed, then the remainder of it’s non-compulsory. I believe is an effective method to consider it.
Emma: Okay, after which the following factor I wanna discuss I believe varies a lot from individual to individual. So it’s accountability and maintaining rating. So that is one thing he talks about within the e-book and there’s numerous other ways to do it. And I additionally assume it actually relies on you and what works for you. So the entire level is to have mechanisms in place to assist hold your self on observe. Some individuals are very internally motivated or externally motivated, or possibly they name it intrinsically motivated, I’m unsure. However I’m an individual the place I don’t actually need lots of exterior accountability. I’m very very similar to on the within, if I’ve determined I wanna do one thing that’s it for me, that’s sufficient. I do want methods to maintain myself on observe. For instance, my husband, he has a pal who he at all times goes to the fitness center with. It’s not that he by no means goes to the fitness center by himself, he does, but it surely helps him loads to have this pal who he goes with. It’s simply form of an accountability factor. It simply signifies that he is aware of his buddies there. In that case, if he’s not there then he’s type of letting him down or that’s most likely too harsh of a wording, however you recognize, one thing alongside these strains. Whereas me, I used to be attempting to get again into the fitness center this 12 months for my psychological well being causes, and so I used to be contemplating becoming a member of this new fitness center the place all my buddies go. I went as soon as and it was actually enjoyable to see everybody. It type of dawned on me thatI’m simply not very externally motivated. I’m a really inside, intrinsically motivated individual, so I truly don’t actually need somebody there. I simply must have it in my thoughts that that is vital to me and I must have purchased into the explanation why, and for me that’s ok. And as soon as I’ve that, then I simply need to type of have my mechanisms to maintain myself on observe. For me, I’m just a little bit extra of a reward system individual. I believe you’re like this too, Elsie. I prefer to have just a little reward on the finish of an enormous objective, like as soon as I obtain it then I’m like, oh, I’m shopping for myself this most likely new jumpsuit or no matter it’s. I’m doing one thing, I’m taking myself out to get my nails completed, no matter. I’m just a little extra of a rewards individual and I prefer to set these for myself. However yeah, you could be an individual who you actually prefer to work with others, possibly you want engaged on groups. Perhaps you want an accountability companion for sure objectives. These are nice instruments and if that’s one thing that helps you, you need to do it. However they’re not essentially for me and I don’t actually assume they’re for you both,Elise. That’s why we thrive a lot at working alone and being alone loads, however I do like reward techniques.
Elsie: I like rewards too and for me I believe you’re a pure finisher and I’m not. So for me, I like to seek out one thing to assist me get previous the half the place I failed earlier than, which is often, relying on what sort of undertaking, it’s often the center or round like day 10 when issues get boring. The purpose the place issues get boring, the entire novelty is worn off is often laborious for me to get previous. I’m very into beginning one thing. In my life I’ve most likely began a whole lot of issues that I did for someday, which is de facto humorous. So, beginning is like my happiest level after which the remainder of it I’ve to maintain myself in some way externally motivated. A rewards system is de facto good for me. I believe that I don’t wanna depend on different individuals as a result of that’s simply not practical for my life-style. So I believe I just like the little rewards. Additionally, the opposite factor I actually like is charts the place you colour in one thing for both every day or every milestone, nonetheless the chart goes. However I actually just like the coloring in charts are very useful for me as a result of when you get to a sure level, it’s like just a little bit addictive to maintain going and similar to get to that utterly full level. However yeah, I believe that the factor I favored from the 12 12 months was the half about ranking your self. I believe it’s just a little bizarre, however I’ve completed it earlier than and I really feel like I’m often just a little bit harsh. Nevertheless it doesn’t actually matter when you’re harsh or beneficiant, so long as you’re constant, type of doesn’t matter. It’s only a option to hold your self attempting to do higher. And I do assume that having your individual accountability is so significantly better than attempting to get another person to carry you accountable. I’ve by no means discovered one other individual holding me accountable to be as efficient and constant as one thing I may do myself.
Emma: I additionally assume like I simply have an actual, I don’t know a great way to say this, however I don’t actually care what different individuals assume that a lot, if I care what you assume, then I do and if I don’t, I don’t. That’s simply what I’ve at all times been like. And I believe at instances in my life that served me rather well and at different instances in my life, it’s made it the place I’ve been type of remoted. Nevertheless it’s simply what I’m like. It doesn’t encourage for me as a result of if I’ve determined that’s not my objective and my accountability companion or no matter was like we’re nonetheless doing this. I’d be like, no, I’m not and I’m similar to not motivated by exterior forces. However on the ranking factor, I believe it’s just a little bizarre too, however one factor I like about it’s I do assume it permits extra. I choose a category that’s like, you will get an A or you will get an F and all the pieces in between. I believe cross fail is type of nerve-wracking just a little bit. So I like that in, at the very least in my world, and ranking myself, I may give myself like a strong B minus and be like, Hey, it’s not so unhealthy, however you possibly can do higher, I like that. So then it feels such as you’re not a failure. You didn’t fail, however you possibly can perform a little higher. You didn’t get an A and I, I like that as a result of then it’s like, all proper, I’m gonna hold attempting, I’m not gonna quit on this. However I see that there’s some areas the place I can enhance considerably. So I like issues which have lots of scale or lots of grey. I don’t do as properly in like black and white conditions, I suppose. After which actually the very last thing that I needed to speak about with 12 week 12 months was a check-in, the check-in time, which is week 13, so on the finish of your 12 weeks, it’s time to examine in. So a pair issues to consider with that. Clearly, It’s good to simply take time on the finish of this timeframe or any form of objective setting factor to see how you probably did to charge your self to simply examine in as a result of I believe lots of instances, at the very least for me, possibly this comes pure for others, however for me, I’m a really ahead shifting individual. I really feel like I can end one thing and I don’t even actually discuss it, and it doesn’t even actually register and I’ll simply hold shifting to the following objective. After which I’ll see a pal who I haven’t seen in a pair months and they are often like, Hey, did you end writing that novel you had been engaged on? And I’m like, oh yeah, I did. Yeah, that was enjoyable, I’m engaged on this now. That’s what I’m like typically and I believe it’s cool that you’ve got lots of objectives in life, however you didn’t actually take any time to, one, have fun you probably have success, so do this, don’t make that mistake. Rejoice when you could have successes, as a result of that’s what life needs to be stuffed with is getting higher and higher at objective setting, at no matter it’s that you just’re eager to do along with your time. So aside from celebrating your successes, I additionally assume checking in is an effective time, particularly when you’re new to the 12 week 12 months to simply type of seeing the way it went. As a result of right here’s the factor, you would possibly get to the top of 12 weeks and understand, wow, I made method too huge of objectives, so I epically failed didn’t get them completed, and never as a result of I didn’t attempt actually laborious however as a result of they had been too huge, they had been an excessive amount of for 12 weeks, and that’s okay, you don’t must really feel unhealthy about that. You simply want to regulate for the following 12 weeks. That you must be extra practical and you possibly can additionally get to the top of your 12 weeks and be like, that was type of simple. I used to be type of completed six weeks by means of and it’s like you possibly can do extra. You could possibly add extra to your 12 week, to your quarter objective record as a result of yours had been too simple and that’s okay too however now it’s time to readjust. So long as you’re taking inventory of how the final quarter went, you’re gonna be capable to higher make objectives for the following 12 weeks. And you may as well type of see how did life change? How do you know my objectives change or something like that. I additionally had this second, so this occurred to me in January of this 12 months I acquired to the top of the month and I used to be feeling actually down as a result of I had been actually sick. I used to be sick for like two strong weeks. I’ve a toddler, so I’m sick lot, simply form of a part of it. It’s winter, we additionally had some snow days, which was actually enjoyable, but it surely type of acquired me off of a few of my objectives of attending to the fitness center and strolling extra for my psychological well being. However what I did was I used to be feeling actually down after which I type of checked out my to-do record that I sustain on my bulletin board in my workplace and it has all my work stuff and I additionally put my private issues on there, simply because I’ve it multi functional place and it’s larger than a post-it like Elsie was speaking about but it surely’s sufficiently small that I can take a look at it and one fast look and so I like that it retains me on observe and I spotlight it, in order that’s my coloring method of seeing what I acquired. .And so I used to be taking a look at it and I noticed that like 90% of it was highlighted. Like I nonetheless acquired loads completed in January, despite the fact that I felt actually crappy and I used to be actually sick and I had much more days off than I used to be type of planning on as a result of we had snow days. However I noticed like, Hey, truly I’m glad I’m taking this second to take inventory, as a result of truly this month went rather well. I acquired loads completed once I had time to work, I actually busted out and once I didn’t get to work as a result of I used to be sick or we had a snow day, I rested or I performed with my son cuz he was residence and that was cool too, that was essential, the resting. Taking part in along with your son’s extra enjoyable than essential, it’s not the phrase I might use, it’s far more enjoyable than essential. It’s additionally essential, but it surely’s not similar.
Elsie: It’s a part of life proper now, for positive.
Emma: The variety of instances I’ve watched the vehicles films this month is simply too many instances, however love you Lightning McQueen. Anyway, so I believe typically having this check-in time, if nothing else, it may possibly type of pressure you to comprehend that you just did a greater job than possibly you had been considering, or at the very least that’s what I discover occurs for me loads is I believe I’ve these grand concepts and I truly get loads completed, but it surely doesn’t at all times really feel so nice within the second. So when you could have these instances the place you let your self examine in, possibly you do want to regulate. Perhaps issues went terribly and you’ll want to make some changes, however possibly additionally issues are higher than you assume and also you’re simply type of laborious on your self, which is what I do.
Elsie: My first month went terribly. Yeah, you do want to regulate.
Emma: That’s okay, that’s advantageous too. It’s not the top of the world to regulate. The rest? Every other ideas you needed to share concerning the 12 week 12 months?
Elsie: Yeah. I believe while you don’t make your objectives, I might say I don’t make my objectives like more often than not, and I believe that’s regular, particularly when lots of the objectives are one thing huge that you just’ve by no means completed earlier than otherwise you generally tend of placing too many on every record. So I believe for the following time, if you’re a objective repeater like me, the place you’re like, I didn’t make that, however I’m gonna attempt once more. Then I believe making some sort of edit to attempt to handle the ache level. So for myself, my ache level is often it’s laborious to get began or it’s laborious to maintain going as soon as it will get boring, that are each completely different but it surely’s gonna occur time and again and over for the remainder of my life since you solely get one mind. So I believe discovering little methods to encourage your self previous your ache factors, I believe will be actually good when. You’re most likely gonna have lots of the identical objectives, like time and again all through your years or related at the very least. So it’s one thing you may positively get higher at, like tricking your individual mind and placing your self in your absolute best place for fulfillment. I believe that no matter you must do for me, the little rewards are good, the little charts, however do no matter you must do to offer your self that absolute best probability.
Emma: I believe that needs to be a T-shirt, you solely get one mind.
Elsie: It’s true. There’s so many instances I examine myself to Emma as a result of Emma is sort of a finisher in any respect prices. She finishes all the pieces and I don’t end most likely like a tenth of the issues that you just do, however I don’t have an opportunity to stay life along with your mind. So, it’s prefer it doesn’t actually matter, it’s an entire waste of time mainly to check myself to somebody who has completely different strategies. So the one strategies that I can enhance upon are those that work for me. So yeah, I believe simply discover the issues that encourage you and actually use these strategies.
Emma: Yeah, I do assume there’s not lots of worth in evaluating your self usually, however evaluating your mind since we’re on that subject to different individuals as a result of it’s such as you’re not gonna be that individual and possibly, there’s truly lots of strengths to being your self. There’s tons of issues that I want I used to be like, you extra, however I’m not and I’m not gonna be, so I can simply admire them about you and I’ll simply worth the issues about me. Which I do assume considered one of my issues is I do like to complete issues and I like that about myself. There’s different instances I want I used to be just a little extra of a perfectionist, however I’m not and there’s no probability of it. So I simply need to know that about myself and simply pressure myself to decelerate. Or redo one thing if it must be redone and be extra sincere about that. As a result of I’m simply not a perfectionist and I believe that that’s okay, however it may possibly maintain again my work from being higher than I believe it might be at instances. So anyway. Yep, we’re who we’re. Settle for it and develop.
Elsie: For positive. I believe you actually need to embrace what your pure strengths and weaknesses are, after which use this to get just a little bit extra completed. However I felt prefer it made an enormous distinction for me. I really like the possibility to have extra recent begins and yeah, I actually don’t see why beginning an enormous objective solely each January, it doesn’t even make sense as a result of January isn’t even the very best month. It’s positively not my prime for like something. And it’s like additionally for individuals like us with little children, it’s such as you’re recovering from the hangover of placing on a magical vacation to your children. Which is loads if your private home loads.
Emma: I believe too, like most individuals I believe, determine with this like the start a part of any undertaking and the objective setting time is de facto enjoyable. It’s thrilling cuz it’s the dreaming half, such as you’re dreaming of all these belongings you wanna do and so that you get to try this 4 instances a 12 months as a substitute of only one time a 12 months when you do the 12 week 12 months. And that’s, I believe, extra enjoyable. It’s 3 times as enjoyable, it’s far more enjoyable. Okay, so I believe that’s about it on that. The following factor I needed to speak about was the excessive 5 check. So if individuals haven’t heard of this possibly simply inform ’em like the way you heard of it, since you despatched it to me, you had been like, take this check, I used to be like, okay. So how did you even hear about it? It’s type of like energy finder, but it surely’s not, I don’t know.
Elsie: So a listener requested that we do like energy finder check and I discovered this check simply by Googling free energy finder check. What’s the precise web site?
Emma: It’s excessive 5 check.com.
Elsie: And it was with a quantity 5, excessive quantity 5. check.com. Okay, so we did this, these checks, it’s free. I couldn’t get my husband to do it, however I acquired Emma to do it. So , that was half of a win. It provides you a prime 5 strengths and Emma and I had like a number of of the identical strengths which I used to be not anticipating, however then it did make lots of sense. After which those which might be completely different additionally make lots of sense. So anyway, ought to we learn what our strengths had been? My prime one is Catalyst, my second one is Optimist, my third is Filo Math, which implies somebody who likes to study. The following one is Thinker, and the final one is timekeeper. This was actually attention-grabbing, I used to be not shocked that I had optimist up actually excessive. I do assume that’s considered one of my strengths and my entire key to success of my entire life is like believing you recognize, just like the woman from TikTok who says, How laborious can it’s syndrome, I type of have that and I’ve at all times felt that I may do something that I wish to do in life. And I believe it’s a method my mind was born. After which a love of studying I positively assume that’s one thing we share. That one’s in your record too, proper? Yeah. F
Emma: Yeah Filo math was my primary.
Elsie: Have been there every other ones that we had been sharing? Thinker? That is smart too after which timekeeper. This one was attention-grabbing as a result of it stated that I mainly favored to race myself, which is true. My solely method of getting issues completed, it’s virtually like just a little child while you set the timer for them to wash their room, that’s nonetheless how I’m to today about any objective. If I’m not on an aggressive deadline, I’m most likely not even engaged on it. In order that’s like my entire methodology.
Emma: I used to be filo math, timekeeper, focus professional, deliverer, and thinker. Focus.
Elsie: Focus Knowledgeable is like the right option to describe you as a result of I don’t assume very many individuals would relate with how properly you focus since you similar to don’t get in your cellphone. You simply don’t have a distractable mind the best way that most individuals do.
Emma: Properly, I don’t know if that’s wholly true. I positively get on my cellphone typically. However Yeah, I do assume considered one of my strengths is I can concentrate on issues. I at all times chalk it as much as that we needed to sit by means of so many boring sermons rising up, and I simply acquired actually good at focusing throughout something.
Elsie: We had been skilled in highschool, throughout our church years, we had been skilled to be word takers in the course of the sermons that was like mainly the best way that you just present that you just’re being well mannered and listening and I do assume that was an especially good behavior of studying tips on how to get essentially the most out. Sermons are at the very least in our church, had been extraordinarily boring. I believe we acquired essentially the most out of it that we may, at the very least you may bear in mind, like one thing from what your favourite half was and issues like that.
Emma: Yeah, mine additionally was love of studying.
Elsie: Wait, learn them once more.
Emma: Principally do filo math, which once more, I don’t know tips on how to pronounce that both. That’s what I’m gonna go together with filo Math, timekeeper, focus professional, deliverer and thinker and I believe deliverer was not in your record.
Elsie: Deliverer, I believe that is why we’re such a great staff collectively as a result of I’ve just like the catalyst and the optimist which might be completely different and you’ve got deliverer and focus professional which might be completely different and I believe that that’s like loads to supply one another.
Emma: Yeah. So I believe you’re like, how laborious can it’s? And I’m like, properly, I suppose we’ll simply end
Elsie: I adore it. Yeah, I hope that a few of you’re taking it. I believe it was extraordinarily correct and attention-grabbing. I’m gonna push my husband once more to take it as a result of I simply wanna perceive that little mind. I want I may push, mine’s a screenshot, so I can’t push on what catalyst means. I want I may learn what it meant, possibly I’ll look it up actual quick. It means you can not wait to start out your undertaking, you begin it immediately, you like beginning. That sounds proper.
Emma: You’re keen on beginning and I really like ending, so we’re an excellent staff. I additionally thought it was humorous. So it type of has 4 completely different energy households and your issues will be in any of those 4 households and the households are considering, doing, feeling, and motivating and all of mine are within the considering and doing. So I’ve no strengths in feeling or motivating, so if you would like somebody who can encourage you, I’m not that individual. And if you would like somebody who has lots of emotions, I suppose I’m not that individual both. I don’t know. Clearly I do have lots of emotions, however I don’t know I simply thought that was type of humorous. I do assume once I’m working or once I’m attempting to perform, which doesn’t need to be work associated like profession, it might be no matter. I do assume I’m very, let’s do issues like I’ve a listing. Even in being a mother, it’s not that I don’t inform Oscar how a lot I really like him or how proud I’m of him, I inform him each single day how proud I’m of him. However I additionally assume very a lot when it comes to, okay, it’s Saturday, what are we going to do? We’re going to go get a donut. Don assume that’s what we’re going to do.
Elsie: I don’t assume that’s what it means although, I don’t assume it signifies that you’re not an emotive individual.I’ll cease in the midst of a undertaking simply to cry and also you don’t do this. You realize what I imply?
Emma: Yeah. I imply, I would truthfully, however I believe it’s extra of, how do you. I don’t know tips on how to clarify this. How do you want undergo life? As a result of to me, it’s not that I don’t emote or have emotions on issues, I simply don’t assume when it comes to my emotions so far as like, what am I going to perform this weekend? Or what’s my life about? I don’t actually assume when it comes to emotions or I consider it extra in what I’m gonna do and achieve. I don’t know, however I believe lots of people do this, so I’m probably not positive. I simply thought it was humorous that each one of mine had been very concentrated. I’d like to satisfy an individual who has one energy in every of the 4 households, and so they’re this like completely balanced individual, however most likely that’s probably not even the way it works.
Elsie: Yeah, mine has 4 colours.
Emma: Oh, you’re a balanced individual then.
Elsie: However I don’t really feel balanced both. I don’t really feel extra balanced than you.
Emma: Mine is like all two colours, not one of the different two .
Elsie: Properly, I’m grateful to your strengths and I believe it’s form of like Enneagram or something. It’s similar to good to know. To be able to perceive different individuals higher. So I believe it’s very useful.
Emma: Sure, I like something that helps you perceive your self or the world higher. I don’t actually like issues that put us in bins. I prefer to make jokes about being a sure method or no matter, however to me that’s simply me being just a little bit self-deprecating for enjoyable. I truly don’t actually view it that method, I believe it’s only a device for self enhance as a result of I don’t have strengths in these different two areas, I can’t be that method. I don’t truly imagine that. I prefer to say a joke about it however that’s not truly my perception.
Elsie: Yeah. No, I don’t both. I simply know I don’t take pleasure in ending, however I nonetheless know that I can, and I believe that that’s simply the one distinction. It’s like, for positive I can do it, you recognize?
Emma: Yeah. How laborious can it’s? Prefer it’s laborious, isn’t that what Elwood says? Yeah. I acquired into Harvard, prefer it’s laborious.
Elsie: Yeah. I wanna watch Legally Blonde, let’s do this film.
Emma: Yeah, we must always do this for per week we watch. It’s a great one.
Elsie: Okay, now it’s time for everybody’s favourite, a joker a truth with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: A joke is, what’s a polar bear within the rain? A drizzly bear?
Elsie: Oh, I like that one. That’s a great joke. Okay, thanks Nova.
Nova: Bye everybody.
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