Episode 179: All Issues Self-Care

This week, we’re sharing our self-care routines, together with psychological well being, bodily well being, skincare stuff, and new issues we wish to strive. 

We’re additionally being sort of random, and I’m sharing all my favourite glowing seltzer waters and Emma’s sharing her salt float expertise!

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Present Notes:

Learn Emma’s weblog publish about her expertise with vascular laser remedy.

Laser remedies now we have tried:

  • Laser hair elimination
  • Vascular Laser Therapy
  • Microneedling with PRP

Motion + methods we scale back stress:

Emma – group health at her native YMCA, yoga, and strolling exterior

Elsie – strolling and a yoga class from theworkoutwitch.com

Psychological well being:

Remedy, being inventive, and having associates

One thing new you’ve tried lately:

Emma – challenges

Elsie – specializing in shifting

One thing you wish to strive within the close to future: 

Elsie – swimming day-after-day and a gaggle health class

Responsible pleasure treasure: 

Elsie – All of the BEST seltzer water drinks:

Emma – jewellery making:

Try Emma’s weblog publish about shrinky dinks.

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Episode 179 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast. This week we’re sharing our self-care routines, together with psychological well being, bodily well being, skincare stuff, and the brand new issues we wish to strive. We’re additionally being sort of random and I’m sharing my favourite glowing seltzer waters, and Emma is sharing her horrific salt float expertise. Okay, let’s lead with the salt float. Within the define it says, Emma’s salt float ick. Inform us the whole lot, Emma, begin from the start as a result of I keep in mind you had been excited to do that.

Emma: Yeah, I used to be and I’ve no regrets about attempting it as a result of it’s enjoyable to strive new issues. So when you’ve by no means heard of a salt float earlier than, as a result of I’m sort of new to listening to about it, I had by no means heard about it until my mother-in-law advised me she does them typically with associates. She’s achieved it together with her husband, my father-in-law too. So she advised me about it. I had by no means actually heard of it, however basically it’s like a sensory deprivation sort tank, that’s the kind of factor. The one I went to anyhow is that this large sort of industrial-looking tank and inside there’s like sufficient water that it could possibly come as much as my knees. I’m 5’4″, however, and there’s a ton, I don’t understand how a lot, however a ton of like epson salt in it or salt, I believe it’s epson salt, however there’s salt. As a result of the thought is you’ll be able to float in it and also you don’t should strive all of it. It’s not like a swimming pool is fairly straightforward to drift in. However that is like, no, actually, you couldn’t actually sink your self except you’re like, flailing round. It makes you weightless. 

Elsie: What did it really feel like if you first stepped in? 

Emma: To me, it felt very slimy as a result of the water may be very thick as a result of it has a lot salt in it, so I didn’t like that. My mother-in-law advised me about this, and only for the file, she’s truly actually superior at self-care. The primary time I ever received a therapeutic massage was as a result of my mother-in-law purchased it for me as a birthday reward, I believe. And this was additionally a birthday reward for my mother-in-law. She was like, would you want a therapeutic massage or did you wanna strive the salt float? As a result of we had talked about it beforehand and I used to be like, oh, I wanna strive the salt float. So she received me a present certificates and it was very candy, although I didn’t find yourself liking it, it was nonetheless actually, actually candy. Anyway, so she’s actually nice at self-care and so I believed, oh, this sounds fascinating. And the one she purchased me, had slightly little bit of sauna time. I really like a sauna. So I used to be simply hanging out within the sauna, chilling out, after which I went to go do the salt float it’s a factor that plenty of folks get pleasure from, however I disliked it a lot. I left after like 10 minutes. I had like an hour that I might float in there for, however I left after about 10 minutes, and on the place I went, there have been two varieties of salt floats. There’s one the place it’s extra of like an open house as a result of some folks really feel claustrophobic, within the tank. I’ve by no means felt claustrophobic earlier than, so I don’t suppose that’s a factor for me, plenty of folks have that they don’t prefer to be in enclosed areas. I don’t really feel like I’ve that. I’m extra of a concern of heights individual, so I used to be like, I believe I’ll be advantageous within the tank and it didn’t trouble me to be within the tank. It’s pitch darkish. So that you get in there and there’s like slightly gentle and it turns off inside like 30 seconds or a minute and there’s music taking part in in the beginning, after which it slowly fades out after which it’ll slowly fade again in in order that you recognize when your time’s up since you actually, you’ll be able to’t take your cellphone in there and the thought is that you just utterly are within the darkness. You’re floating, you’ll be able to simply utterly loosen up. And lots of people find it irresistible. I simply thought it felt slimy and I used to be sort of attempting to drift, however you recognize, you actually don’t have to strive. However I simply didn’t prefer it, so I left her like 10 minutes, and the gal on the entrance desk who had helped me like, you recognize, prepare and go within the room. And he or she advised me like all of the issues, she was like, ah, so it wasn’t for you? And I used to be like, no, it wasn’t, I didn’t prefer it. I used to be so embarrassed, however I used to be like, I’m simply not gonna keep simply because I really feel embarrassed to go away, however I used to be like, I simply thought that is it for me. 

Elsie: Yeah. Okay, so I had agreed with Emma that I’d do it additionally, and there’s like a few locations which have it the place I stay. I used to be which means to do it and we had been gonna speak about it on the podcast and as quickly as she texted me and advised me she hated it, I used to be like so relieved that I didn’t should, I don’t suppose I noticed I like, simply didn’t wish to. I used to be placing it off as a result of I don’t know, I simply didn’t just like the sound of it. So I’m not stunned that, and I’ve heard different individuals who hated it, however I’ve additionally heard individuals who actually prefer it. So I suppose it’s most likely simply a kind of extremely private issues like cilantro. 

Emma: Yeah, like cilantro is like, I do know individuals who hate massages. They’re like, I simply can’t loosen up, I don’t need somebody touching me. I don’t like being bare or largely bare. And I get that. However I really like a therapeutic massage personally too, so it’s like, you recognize, folks like various things. You gotta discover what’s for you. And this was not for me.

Elsie: Properly, I believe it’s humorous although, and I believe it’s sort of cool that you just similar to received up and left, when you knew that it was zero.

Emma: I believe youthful, Emma wouldn’t have achieved that as a result of I used to be like, I’m gonna should stroll previous the entrance desk woman. And I additionally felt so unhealthy. I used to be like, oh, I’m gonna have to inform my mother-in-law ’trigger she’s gonna ask me the way it went. And I don’t need her to really feel like I didn’t like her reward, simply all these items. After which I used to be like, Hey, you’ll be able to simply depart and it’s okay, and that’s what I did.

Elsie: No, I believe stuff like that it’s fascinating to attempt to that’s a part of the enjoyable is like realizing that you just won’t prefer it, it’s polarizing. So Cool. 

Emma: Yeah. I’m glad to have tried it cuz it was undoubtedly an expertise and like I mentioned, it’s like this industrial tank. I don’t know, however I really feel like I might use that in a narrative sometime. It’s undoubtedly a factor. I imply, it’s sort of in Stranger Issues, that’s how she goes the wrong way up like floating within the salt water. 

Elsie: Did you ever watch the TV present known as The Leftovers as a result of there’s a extremely bizarre half the place there in little tanks like that in that present, it’s creepy. Yeah, for positive, however I beloved that present. I used to be like one of many solely folks, I like beloved it. 

Emma: I haven’t seen it, however I’ve seen the posters for it and stuff and it regarded fascinating. Not essentially spiritual, however one thing like that.

Elsie: Okay, so on this episode we’re gonna discuss all about self-care stuff. Among the stuff we’re gonna undergo is lasers, facials, motion, methods to scale back stress remedy, psychological well being stuff, one thing we’ve tried, one thing we wanna strive. So let’s begin with the lasers and facials. So final time we talked about something like this, I keep in mind you shared that you just had been doing laser hair elimination and it was such as you simply began and I began doing it proper after you, so we will each speak about it. It’s such a journey. 

Emma: In case you advised me that you just had been doing it, I suppose I forgot trigger I’m like, oh, you’re doing it. Cool. 

Elsie: Yeah, I began a extremely very long time in the past. Okay, so laser hair elimination, I’ll attempt to say it as overtly as I can, however with out saying something that’s gross. I believe it’s slightly little bit of a private factor.

Emma: Yeah. Don’t wanna flip folks off.

Elsie: Skip via this half when you like I don’t wanna hear something about it in any respect. However my husband doesn’t wanna hear something about it in any respect, like something, so I simply don’t, which is okay. I’ve advised plenty of my associates about it as a result of I believe it’s the kind of factor that when you’re even contemplating doing it, you wanna hear from another person who’s achieved it. Like how unhealthy is it? Is it a giant deal? And I’ve seen plenty of folks on-line say that laser hair elimination doesn’t harm and I believe it hurts lots. So I believe it’s very fascinating how completely different folks understand ache and possibly it’s completely different lasers. I don’t know. I don’t know, however inform us about your expertise. 

Emma: I simply did my bikini space. What areas are you doing? 

Elsie: Yeah, so I did the bikini after which I did the armpits thus far after which as soon as I’ve sort of been into it, I noticed I remorse not doing the legs and I’m gonna return for the legs. So final time I requested which one’s worse and she or he mentioned, if you are able to do the bikini, you are able to do something, so simply do the legs. 

Emma: That may be my guess too, if you are able to do the bikini space, most likely you can do anything. My gal additionally advised me, as a result of I’m additionally contemplating legs, however I don’t suppose I’m gonna do it. However she mentioned that decrease legs are literally no large deal in any respect, it’s extra higher legs and thighs. They could be a little extra delicate. However once more, everyone’s completely different. I don’t agree with this web factor that laser hair elimination doesn’t harm in any respect. Don’t agree. So the place I went to, presents a numbing cream which you can buy and check out. I didn’t get that once I began laser hair elimination, I used to be nonetheless breastfeeding. I used to be like sort of on the center to the tail finish of breastfeeding and you’ll’t use it when you’re breastfeeding. So I simply didn’t have the choice however when you aren’t breastfeeding, you can strive that and I most likely would’ve achieved it if I’d had the choice, however my gal additionally advised me, she was like, simply take ibuprofen like half-hour earlier than you come right here, and that may assist too. It simply sort of takes the sting off. In order that’s what I often do. I believe it hurts, I believe it appears like somebody’s snapping at you with a rubber band. That’s what it feels prefer to me. So it’s not the best ache ever. 

Elsie: To me, it’s like stabbing with needles slightly bit like stabbing, stabbing, stabbing.

Emma: Yeah, I believed a tattoo was worse, personally, however I even have tattoos on my forearms, which is a really completely different space than my bikini space, so, I don’t know. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’ll say I believe it’s fairly unhealthy, however the execs of it are, it’s actually brief. It’s lower than 10 minutes to do the whole lot I do each time. So it’s very brief. I hate it, but it surely’s prefer it’s achieved earlier than you’ve even began it, it’s very fast. And the opposite factor that’s cool is correct after you get it, the hair in that space doesn’t develop for a extremely very long time, so it’s good. It’s such as you get this on the spot satisfaction. They are saying it’s important to go 5 – 6 occasions to get it utterly gone. However I simply at all times get pleasure from it proper after I’m going that it’s like the entire month nearly, it’s like nothing, which is good. It’s like one much less factor to consider. So yeah, I’d advocate it. I believe it’s undoubtedly price it. The place I went to was not very costly. I received a greater worth by paying the entire thing upfront. 

Emma: Identical. Yep, they had been like, there’s a reduction when you pay in any respect. And I used to be like, signal me up. I like this low cost. 

Elsie: Yeah. It’s not nice, however everybody who has had waxing says that the laser isn’t as unhealthy, in order that’s good.

Emma: Sure, and waxing simply doesn’t final as lengthy. I’ve solely achieved waxing as soon as, however I believed it was slightly bit worse than laser and it doesn’t final as lengthy. Laser, it lasts considerably indefinitely. You’ll be able to develop extra hair if you’re older, our our bodies change over time, like over years and years, however typically, no. So I believe it’s very price it. I’d undoubtedly advocate it to anybody contemplating, that’s my expertise. Clearly, do no matter you need together with your physique, however I additionally wanna put it on the market for anybody contemplating it doesn’t work on blonde hair. And it could not work on gentle pink hair both. It’s a must to have darkish hair. I neglect why they might clarify it to you, a technician greater than me. However it has one thing to do with the foundation of the hair the laser can’t do blonde hair.

Elsie: You could have some distinction in order that the laser can see. Okay. Let’s speak about different varieties of lasers and different varieties of facials. Any sort of med spa stuff that you just’ve tried?

Emma: Yeah. So I’ve a publish about my vascular laser expertise, so we’ll hyperlink that within the present notes when you wanna examine it extra. 

Elsie: Clarify what that’s. 

Emma: Yeah, mainly I realized about it from my laser hair elimination technician, and each time I used to be pregnant, I received this type of damaged blood vessels on my face. Not tons, however one was like proper in the course of my brow and I neglect the place the opposite ones had been. I had one proper beneath my collarbone. A few different locations, and particularly the one proper in the course of my brow simply actually bothered me it made me really feel like I needed to put on make-up or it was simply extraordinarily distinguished. Being pregnant is so unusual it simply does all types of unusual issues to your physique and I’m so grateful for the expertise, however I didn’t love this damaged blood vessel and I realized that I might do away with it with a vascular laser. So all they do is, it’s only one little zap and so they can take away it to allow them to do away with damaged blood vessels and likewise cherry moles and some different little issues. It gained’t take away the whole lot. In case you’re like, I’ve freckles, I don’t suppose it really works for that. However you recognize, little issues like that. And I’ve truly gone now a few occasions I received issues achieved after I used to be achieved being pregnant, so I might do away with that damaged blood vessels from that have. And I’ve received just a few extra like cherry molds achieved since then which are simply in locations the place it’s like, on my boob, however in a spot the place you see it once I’m carrying a swimsuit and I used to be like, I simply don’t love that that is such a giant cherry mole, I’d prefer to get it eliminated. It’s my physique, my selection. In order that’s one thing that I’d and have achieved and it’s good. And in addition simply, I do know that is all about self-care and it’s slightly bit like visible stuff, however I sort of wanna put this on the market too. The place I went for the vascular laser was a dermatologist and I additionally suppose it’s a extremely good thought to get checked for pores and skin most cancers. Perhaps not yearly, it depends upon your sort of pores and skin and the way a lot you’re within the solar, however it’s best to do it when you’ve by no means achieved it and also you’re an grownup listening, it’s best to do it after which see what they advocate. Like how typically so that you can are available in since you simply by no means know. Like we had a grandma who had some pores and skin most cancers, and when you catch issues like that early on, quite a lot of occasions they’ll take away it and also you gained’t have large points. There’s typically a spot in your again and you’ll’t see it, and also you don’t at all times do a terrific job getting sunscreen there as a result of you’ll be able to’t attain it. It’s simply good to get issues checked out, so do this. Make your companions do it. It’s good to do. 

Elsie: Yeah, completely. I do know we’ve each tried micro-needling. I’ve achieved micro-needling with P R P, which I believe can also be known as the Vampire Facial, it’s actually gross trying. I believed it was fairly enjoyable, I favored it. 

Emma: What does it do? Inform folks, why is it known as Vampire Facial? 

Elsie: So initially, it’s important to get your blood drawn after which they spin the blood in order that it’s solely like a part of it, some sort of like platelets or one thing. I truly suppose it’s best to go on a Med Spas web site and examine this and don’t simply go by my description of it as a result of I don’t know what I’m speaking about. However then they take that liquid and so everytime you get a micro-needling, there must be some sort of gel or one thing in your face to microneedle into the pores and skin. So that they use that as an alternative, they microneedle that into your pores and skin and it’s imagined to be like a giant collagen booster, that’s why folks do it. I believe it was just like the Kardashians did it one time or one thing. So I believe that’s why folks name it the vampire facial. I don’t know the way it received the nickname. Yeah, I attempted that just a few occasions and I believed it was fairly good. I additionally tried, there’s this laser known as BBL that you are able to do for like age spots and I’ve tons of solar injury. So I received it on my arms, I received it on my chest, I received it on my face and it’s nice. I’d undoubtedly do it once more. It’s simply good to know, just like the factor you had been saying with the little vein, I’ve a kind of, like within the nook of my nostril, I’m gonna go do this now. It’s like some stuff you don’t even understand it’s doable after which it’s like only one appointment, one little time of getting zapped by a laser, no large deal. It’s nice. I believe that’s one of many good issues about dwelling at the present time. There are simply so many fascinating issues that individuals can do with lasers that I don’t suppose most likely existed even 20 years in the past. 

Emma: Yeah, most likely not. You most likely used to, when you ever received a foul tattoo, your solely possibility was to cowl it up as an alternative now they’ll laser it off if you need. 

Elsie: Okay, so let’s speak about motion and methods to scale back stress. Something that helps you’re feeling such as you’re having a more healthy way of life. 

Emma: Yeah. I consider this lots as self-care and psychological well being, however clearly, it’s about health too, so longevity stuff. However I’m going to group health, I’m going to Physique Pump, which is on the Y M C A, there’s one close by the place I stay. It’s like a 10-minute drive. 

Elsie: These are so enjoyable. I really like these courses. They like music. 

Emma: Sure and I’m the individual within the class who is continually slightly bit behind. I’m like, do I not have rhythm? What’s mistaken with me? And I’ve additionally tried step aerobics earlier than, I’ve by no means tried Zumba, however I really feel like it could be just like step aerobics, I couldn’t sustain. I really like the thought of getting cardio and I really like group health they only inform you what to do and also you simply do it. However I simply don’t have any rhythm, I suppose. I don’t know what’s mistaken with me. I by no means wanna line dance as a result of I’m gonna be the one who can not do it, who’s similar to consistently slightly behind. However anyway, I do love group health, and what I really like about my class is there are many completely different ages and it’s plenty of completely different physique varieties. It feels very inclusive. It appears like that is about power coaching for you. So no matter which means for you and your degree and simply with the ability to, for me it’s like selecting up my toddler on a regular basis and never feeling like that’s too laborious. So, I really like that. After which I’m additionally, whereas I used to be pregnant, I did quite a lot of yoga and I nonetheless do it every so often now, however I undoubtedly was like in my yoga section whereas I used to be pregnant. And that was actually enjoyable and enjoyable and undoubtedly difficult at occasions too as a result of your steadiness adjustments in that point. So I believe that’s a terrific factor to do and I simply did quite a lot of that off YouTube. After which I’m a giant take walks exterior individual too, I simply love strolling, and I get quite a lot of concepts. I de-stress. I do my gratitude observe. So I take into consideration issues I’m grateful for and I believe simply sunshine makes such a giant distinction. And there are specific occasions of the 12 months the place there’s simply not as a lot of it and it’s freezing and I don’t wanna stroll exterior and so typically I don’t if it’s pouring rain all week, then yeah, I don’t get to that week and I can inform a distinction. So, I make a giant effort to do this anytime I can, after which within the hotter months it’s at all times simpler. Recent air, sunshine, being exterior, gazing all of your neighbor’s homes and being like, find it irresistible, find it irresistible. Don’t like that one. It’s enjoyable. Slack it round, judging. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’m so excited to maneuver to Missouri only for the strolling, as a result of the home peeping on this particular neighborhood is so good. However yeah, I’ve been doing walks this 12 months and I believe the place I stay presently, I believe my stroll is slightly bit boring, I’m not gonna lie. The homes aren’t outdated, I like taking a look at outdated homes. 

Emma: Yeah, I’ve walked in your neighborhood. It’s okay, it’s slightly boring. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’ve been doing the factor, attempting to be within the solar for half-hour a day is sort of a factor that each therapist recommends, each self-help e-book, similar to each one that is aware of something at all times says it’s best to attempt to get slightly little bit of sunshine day-after-day. In order that’s the rationale that I’ve been doing that. And I’ve a giant audiobook way of life, so it offers me time to do this, which I really like. The opposite factor I’m doing lately is a form of yoga class. So the web site is named The Exercise Witch and it’s imagined to be a trauma-releasing, like centered yoga factor. So I’m doing that as a result of I like greater than something on the earth, I wish to get my outdated trauma. In case you consider that trauma could be saved in your physique, which I believe most individuals do, it’s like, how do you get it out although? If anybody is aware of something, I don’t know, please ship it to me. I’m like obsessive about the topic, however that is the very first thing that I’ve tried that I felt like did something. It’s been good thus far and I believe it’s fascinating. It’s an fascinating factor to strive. I additionally tried reiki therapeutic and for me, I’d undoubtedly do it once more with a special practitioner, but it surely was like a zero out of 10 for me. I didn’t get what I needed out of the expertise.

Emma: Have you ever tried acupuncture or been to a chiropractor earlier than? I’ve truly by no means achieved both of these, and I really feel such as you want extra of a cause or a purpose, it’s not similar to a therapeutic massage. So I don’t really feel like that’s come up for me but.

Elsie: I’ve been to a chiropractor however I believe I’m extra fascinated by attempting acupuncture sooner or later. I’d like to strive that, undoubtedly. Okay, so let’s speak about remedy and something within the psychological well being class, even when it’s random, even when it’s small. Similar to something you do that you just really feel has had a constructive impact in your psychological well being. So for me, like going into common remedy, it’s one thing I began I believe like three or 4 years in the past, slightly bit earlier than the pandemic began. It’s simply one thing that I needed to do as a result of a few of my associates do it ongoing, common remedy without end, it’s not centered on something, it’s only a observe that you just do constantly. So I turned fascinated by that trigger I used to be simply curious what sort of a distinction it could make and it’s made a giant distinction for me. I’ve had some particular struggles pop up over the previous three years that I wanted to work via. After which quite a lot of the time we go into issues which are extra like ongoing issues from childhood. Deep-set fears, like issues that I simply need and have to work on, however don’t really feel like I’ve the instruments alone. Yeah, I’d say the primary smartest thing I’ve ever achieved for myself is begin going to remedy each two weeks for no cause apart from it’s like what I do now. 

Emma: Yep. Identical, I’m going to remedy presently I’m going as soon as a month, and each time I’m there I’d prefer to e-book my subsequent one. And yeah, sort of the identical, I don’t really feel like I’ll essentially go my complete life, however I additionally don’t really feel like, oh, that may be unhealthy if I did that. I believe that having time, making appointments, and likewise it prices a sure amount of cash, are components. I’ve heard associates earlier than say, effectively, I don’t wanna go to remedy ongoing as a result of I’ll really feel this stress to have one thing mistaken on a regular basis. I solely will go to remedy if there’s one thing mistaken, so I’ll begin making issues a much bigger deal than they are surely or one thing like that. That hasn’t been my expertise. I really feel prefer it’s a terrific place if there’s something mistaken, quote-unquote, then you’ll be able to clearly speak about it and it’s a protected house the place they’re not gonna share something. My city’s sort of a small city, so it’s good to simply have a spot the place you’ll be able to speak about issues actually overtly. So I do recognize that, however I typically share issues that I’m actually glad about. It makes me really feel like I’ve a spot the place, you recognize, you by no means wish to really feel such as you’re bragging or being unrelatable to different folks. And naturally, I do have shut associates and I share constructive issues with folks. However I like having a spot the place I can go in and I might say one thing a few cash determine. I might say one thing about, simply how I’m like actually happy with one thing and I don’t have to fret about like I’m bragging. I’m like, that is my therapist. I might simply say, I’m actually glad about this factor. I do that factor the place typically I replay conversations. I’m like, right here’s this little second I had with my good friend or my sister, or my companion, no matter. I really feel like once I do this alone, typically I can sort of dig my heels in on if I believed I used to be proper. They didn’t deal with it proper or no matter. I really feel prefer it’s good to have one other individual with whom you’ll be able to replay a dialog and so long as you’re trustworthy, they’ll sort of assist you see the place possibly you can have dealt with that slightly in another way. Perhaps you can change your communication type slightly bit or possibly narrowly take a look at this factor, and you can take a look at it in a broader approach and it could change issues. I believe my therapist helps me with that lots, and I notice like, oh yeah, I used to be mistaken. Or similar to, oh, that’s just one approach of taking a look at it. There are a bunch of different methods I might take a look at it too. And I discover that basically useful too. So yeah, I don’t know. I simply kinda needed to place that on the market if anybody’s like, effectively, there’s nothing mistaken, so I don’t wanna go to remedy. And it’s like, Hey when you don’t wanna do the appointment, or like the cash doesn’t suit your funds, I get that.

However I don’t suppose one thing must be mistaken so as so that you can go, I believe you’ll be able to simply attempt to develop into a greater individual. And it’s one software on the market. 

Elsie: I strongly agree. I’ve by no means had an expertise the place I felt like I used to be making up issues or making issues worse than they already had been, simply because I wanted one thing to speak about. It’s actually only a protected house the place I can admit issues that I wouldn’t admit in different conditions, which is good to have. It’s essential I believe, to have, regardless of how nice your folks are, your companion, there’s gonna be some issues that you just don’t speak about. There’s at all times gonna be one thing, one thing that’s simply not comfy or no matter, I believe it’s great. I believe when you haven’t tried it, don’t decide it. I’m planning to let my youngsters begin quickly and be in ongoing remedy. I would like them to expertise it, for it to simply be regular. That’s my purpose is that remedy is simply so regular that it’s boring and never that it’s like some large factor that signifies that there’s like a giant downside or one thing in any approach to be ashamed of, which is extra like, I believe a factor from the previous that’s hopefully going away. 

Emma: Yeah. I believe making issues regular is sweet. I believe additionally going again to motion, encouraging your child, letting them see that motion’s part of your life and that health is enjoyable and it doesn’t should be a chore and it doesn’t should be solely fitness center folks, quote unquote fitness center folks do this. It’s like, no, that is regular. And you discover one thing you want. And I believe normalizing that’s actually good and in the identical approach, I believe normalizing remedy sounds actually good too. After which it’s like they’ll work out the way it matches of their life after they’re older and it could possibly be quite a lot of various things and that’s nice.

Elsie: Okay. I’ve another factor that’s within the what helps within the psychological well being class. So for me, one in all my greatest targets for myself, but in addition simply as a guardian, is that I wish to at all times be studying and I don’t at all times be making issues. So I believe making extra time in my life for each of these issues since I’ve develop into an avid reader that has actually modified my life. And I believe pottery has actually modified my life as a result of simply having issues that aren’t work-related, I achieve this many inventive issues for our work, however that’s not the identical factor as making stuff only for enjoyable, and in reality, they’re very completely different. The stakes are completely different, the stress’s completely different. The quantity that I can loosen up and revel in may be very in another way. So I believe simply making extra space for issues I get pleasure from, as small as that may sound, it’s a factor that was a lacking puzzle piece for a very long time and now it’s develop into a vital psychological well being savior for me.

Emma: Yep. I couldn’t agree extra. That’s why I’ve my bizarre jewelry-making passion. 

Elsie: Sure. I really like that. In case you guys observe Emma’s Instagram, she posts new necklaces that she’s making on a regular basis it’s so cute and it makes me so glad and it makes me wanna make one thing. So, yeah, I believe when you’re not making time for your self, particularly when you’re a mother with younger youngsters as a result of that’s the place we’ve been, simply strive it. Simply find time for one factor that’s only for you, simply begin.

Emma: The one different factor I needed so as to add on this part is having associates, having shut associates, and I’ll simply put this on the market. There have been a few years of my life the place mainly Elsie and Trey had been my solely associates. I used to be similar to constructing my enterprise and simply trying again, I’m like, I didn’t actually have associates. I solely had my household, which is nice, and I’m grateful I had that. However now I’m in a section of my life, particularly the final three to 5 years the place I’ve a extremely nice group of associates. They’re largely on this e-book membership that I’m going to, and I’m simply actually grateful for it. And I additionally notice I believe for a very long time I didn’t notice that I used to be sort of asking an excessive amount of of these relationships, of my friendship with you, Elsie, and likewise my relationship with my husband. You’ll be able to’t actually count on your companion to be the whole lot for you. That’s simply a lot. And so now I really feel like I’ve this group of associates that may be a supply of consolation and love, and so they problem me on issues. They make me take into consideration issues in another way. We don’t all consider precisely the identical approach or have the very same political opinions, and I truly actually like that. Yeah, we learn books collectively which are sort of within the private improvement class, but in addition largely we’re simply there for one another. And when somebody’s going via one thing laborious, they’ll speak about it. And I’m simply actually grateful to have friendships. And I believe if you’re an grownup, it may be sort of difficult to make. associates however I believe having this group has made me much more assured in reaching out to different individuals who aren’t even on this e-book membership, simply to be like, I wanna have a good friend and that signifies that if I have to e-book one thing with you want three weeks out, I suppose I used to really feel like, oh, that’s sort of dorky, I’m attempting too laborious and persons are gonna suppose I’m sort of dorky. And the reality is, I’m sort of dorky and I don’t care. I want to see you and I’ll attempt to e-book a time with you, and it could possibly be a month from now and it may be a play date or it could possibly be no matter, and I’ll most likely make you a necklace and that’s who I’m. And I’m advantageous with it as a result of when you determine that I’m too dorky for you, I’ve this good friend group I can fall again on. 

Elsie: Yeah. I don’t suppose anybody’s ever pondering that, however I perceive it’s very regular to e-book one thing a month away in my good friend group.

Emma: It simply wasn’t in our twenties although, so I really feel like impulsively you’re on this section of life the place it’s important to be a lot extra intentional relatively than similar to everyone was free each weekend and was like already out, so you’d stumble upon. And now it’s like, no if I’m gonna see you, we’ve gotta make a plan. And it is likely to be squeezed in between nap occasions and completely different occasions and it feels much more strive laborious I don’t thoughts that I like dwelling an intentional life, however I suppose I at all times felt nervous that individuals had been gonna interpret it. Like, oh wow, you’re gonna e-book this a month out. You’re not chill and I’m like, yeah, I suppose I’m not, I simply wanna see you. 

Elsie: That is sensible. There’s a really, very large distinction from like, oh, we’re at this place, come over right here if you’re in your twenties, and like, let’s have lunch subsequent month. So I get it. I’m very acclimated to that way of life although, I don’t have any associates who suppose that we will plan one thing the day of. Yeah, however I believe that that’s actually, actually good. I’m glad you’ve gotten that group of associates. That sounds actually, actually wholesome and like a giant assist system. 

Emma: Yeah, and it’s additionally good when you’ve gotten associates who’ve youngsters an identical age or older, you will get recommendation about these new phases or you’ll be able to play dates. It’s simply all that stuff. That’s good too. 

Elsie: That’s essential for positive. Okay, so something new you’ve tried lately? I do know you tried the salt float. 

Emma: Yeah, I’m truly doing this factor thus far this 12 months. I hadn’t deliberate it out, it’s simply been taking place, however I do some sort of problem each month, like a small factor. Principally what I’m doing is ensuring that my habits are nonetheless serving me. So what I did final month was I did a display screen time problem. So every week I would love, I’ve a folder on my cellphone that’s I’d screenshot my display screen time and what I used to be attempting to do was sort of gamify it the place I’m attempting to spend much less time on my cellphone and particularly much less time on social media and clearly I spend a while there for work. Additionally like maintaining with associates, it wasn’t like a, Oh, I can’t, that is horrible, the whole lot is unhealthy. I’m simply taking a look at this behavior, ensuring it’s serving me, ensuring the period of time I’m spending on there, I’m proud of, and if not altering it. And that was actually constructive, final month was nice. This month what I’m doing is a TV problem. So mainly I’m not watching television within the night. I don’t watch TV through the day, however within the evenings, Monday via Thursday. And I nonetheless do on the weekends and I’ll nonetheless watch one thing with Oscar, like watching 20 minutes of automobiles earlier than he goes to mattress, that doesn’t rely, TV for me. I nonetheless need a few of it cuz that’s undoubtedly a time when my husband and I hang around and simply sort of like cuddle on the sofa and chill. So I didn’t wanna do no TV as a result of I really feel like I’d miss that. However I even have seen that I’ve quite a lot of books I wanna learn. I’ve all these puzzles that I wanna do, and I haven’t gotten to them but. I’ve my little jewelry-making factor, however I’ve different hobbies. I’ve this clean canvas sitting on an easel in my workplace and I haven’t painted one thing since we moved in. I simply have all these items that I’m like, I wish to make slightly extra time in my week for actions that I simply wish to do. And I believe if I watch much less television, cuz what occurs is we’ll make dinner and we sit down to look at one thing after which we simply keep there. And that’s advantageous typically, however I wanna deliberately change this up this month and simply see how I’m feeling about that. In order that’s what I’m doing this month and it sort of performs into your making a extremely nice self-care cuz I really like hobbies that aren’t for work. They’re not for something, I’m not promoting them. I’ve no plans for it. I simply wanna paint one thing. Portray’s, simply one in all ’em, however yeah, I’ve slightly listing on my cellphone of issues I’m gonna do that month and a few of them are making, a few of them are nonetheless consuming, like studying books. 

Elsie: I actually don’t have something I’ve tried lately moreover the stuff I already shared. I believe I’m in a survival season as we’re about transfer. Transforming a brand new home and I’m barely getting by. Yeah, I really feel excited to strive extra issues sooner or later. Okay, so is one thing new that you just wanna strive. Is there something you haven’t gotten to but within the self-care world that you just wish to strive? ​

Emma: I didn’t actually have something for this. Do you’ve gotten something new you’re desirous to strive?

Elsie: I wanna strive swimming day-after-day. I’ve by no means actually achieved that and I’m solely gonna my swimming pool for like two extra months proper now and it’s simply now we might flip the heater on, however we haven’t achieved that but. So I might most likely begin quickly and I simply wanna expertise like each time we first lived right here, Colin was working for me nonetheless and I used to be at all times like, I ought to swim whereas my youngsters are in school. However it’s too embarrassing mainly, it’s simply too embarrassing. So I simply by no means did it. In order that’s one thing I’d love to do. I’m on the market with my youngsters and stuff, however I don’t ever do it simply on my own. Even when it’s just a bit bit, that’s one thing I wanna strive as a result of I don’t know, it simply, it seems to be actually enjoyable, and in only a very completely different expertise than taking part in with youngsters to do one thing alone as an grownup. In order that’s one thing I believe could be enjoyable. After which, yeah, if you had been speaking about group health, I used to be excited about that slightly bit. This is among the saddest issues, however the entire time we lived at our outdated home in Nashville, we had been actually, actually removed from a Y M C A, any sort of group class. It was simply sort of not something close to us in any respect. It was like a 30-minute drive or a 20-minute drive, so I couldn’t wait to maneuver right here. We moved right here to Brentwood and the primary weekend that we had been right here, we joined the Y M C A and took our youngsters swimming within the pool. And I used to be taking a look at all of the courses I used to be gonna do and the next week was just like the week of March 14th, 2020 and yeah, we canceled our membership after just a few months and we by no means went once more. So I suppose I simply didn’t actually think about, I received my little train bike, and quite a lot of different issues alongside the best way, however I haven’t actually considered doing a gaggle class. So if you had been saying that, I used to be like, possibly I ought to strive going to Physique Pump with Emma once I moved. That sounds sort of enjoyable, we used to do this once we had been in our twenties and I beloved it trigger it was like Nirvana music and pop music and also you simply carry these tiny little weights with a bunch of actually diversely aged folks and I believe it’s enjoyable. 

Emma: Yep. It’s superior. 

Elsie: Anyway, so yeah, I believe possibly a gaggle class could be a enjoyable factor to strive someday this 12 months. What about you? 

Emma: No, I don’t have something new for the longer term. I believe I’m simply on my path for now. 

Elsie: Excellent. You’re doing nice. Yeah, and I undoubtedly really feel like I could possibly be doing higher, however I believe I’m happy with myself for getting via what I’ve been getting via lately. It has been extra of a difficult time than ordinary.

Emma: Yeah, there’s by no means any have to beat your self up about not doing sufficient self-care. There may be simply taking a look at your life and deciding when you want some adjustments. That’s all No want for any regrets. Yeah, no want for any guilt. 

Elsie: Completely. Okay, so our subsequent section is a responsible pleasure, treasure, which I don’t suppose we’ve achieved every so often and I took, I don’t know the time to spherical up all of my favourite seltzer. So something within the LaCroix class put down all my favourite ones. So I’m gonna hyperlink all of them within the present notes as a result of I sort of suppose that’s part of it’s you want to see the packaging so that you’re within the retailer. Initially, I’ve at all times beloved seltzer drinks, however a few of them are approach higher than others and I do suppose it’s an opinion factor. So these are simply my favorites, however I believe that it’s best to get those that you just actually like, and when you haven’t tried an entire bunch, I believe that’s an essential a part of discovering one of the best ones for you. So my primary favourite one is that this model known as Aura Bora, and it’s the cutest, it’s just like the tall, skinny cans. It’s the cutest packaging. And I attempted a bunch of flavors that weren’t good a few years in the past after which lately I noticed it on the retailer once more and I grabbed some. And the flavour that I’m obsessive about is strawberry basil and it actually would possibly as effectively simply be known as plain basil as a result of it simply tastes like basil. However for some cause, for me, it’s a ten out of 10. I really like basil soda, it’s so good. So when you see it, get it. And when you like basil, when you don’t like basil, undoubtedly don’t get it. I prefer it and it’s fascinating to me. So out of those that you just generally see on the grocery retailer or Goal, my favourite one by lots is Waterloo model Grape, and it must be grape. I believe that the cherry one is okay too, however the grape one for some cause simply has extra taste and it’s actually, actually good. It’s like a soda.

Emma: Yeah, and I suppose I didn’t strive it for a very long time as a result of I used to be like grape, that’s a child grape soda factor, after which I used to be like grape soda is wonderful. 

Elsie: However that is Selzer, it’s completely different. 

Emma: Yeah, it’s completely different anyway, it’s scrumptious. 

Elsie: Yeah. Okay, so in Bubbly or La Croix? I actually suppose that these are each simply, okay, the model, however one of the best taste in my view is watermelon or cherry each time. These are often fairly good in most varieties, in my view. Yeah. I steer clear of the Leroy ones which are like actually, actually frequent. My husband actually likes the pompom moose one and the lime one, and people are like my least favorites. 

Emma: That’s Trey’s favourite too. Him and Jeremy have the identical sparkly water style. 

Elsie: Okay, so there’s this model known as Polar that I see each every so often. And so they have a taste that’s orange vanilla, additionally Kroger. If in case you have Kroger in your space they’ve a Kroger model that has orange vanilla and this one is admittedly polarizing, however I find it irresistible. For me, it’s a ten out of 10. It is sort of a creamsicle sort of taste however clearly, there’s no sugar in any of those in any respect. It’s simply the essence of glowing water. So yeah, I believe when you like Creamsicle and also you see a kind of, undoubtedly strive it cuz it sounds unhealthy however for me, it was actually good. After which, okay I put a great and collect one simply because I really feel like it’s important to, it’s the goal model, I put tropical cherry. I believe it’s one of the best one out of the whole lot they’ve, and it’s sort of just like the one I often get. In order that’s my complete listing. Are there another seltzers that you just suppose are so good that you just wanna point out?

Emma: I truly actually just like the LaCroix one which’s like cola, which I don’t see it fairly often, however I truly actually like that one. I don’t know why as a result of I don’t actually drink like Coke or Pepsi once I get a soda, like with sugar in it, I often get like Sprite as a result of to me that’s just like the childhood soda, I don’t know. However yeah, I kinda just like the cola one, however I’m curious, I simply wanna know what’s your primary least favourite as a result of I’ve one glowing water that I gained’t even drink, it’s so unhealthy to me. And it’s additionally a LaCroix. 

Elsie: I personally don’t like Spin Drift, those which have slightly little bit of juice in them and I’ve tried each single form and I can’t keep in mind there was one which was slightly bit tolerable to me, however I simply personally don’t want these. 

Emma: Identical. I don’t like all of the manufacturers however the spin drifts are those we see essentially the most typically. That has precise juice in it, I don’t have a tendency to love these ones. I don’t know why my husband likes it, however yeah, it’s not for me. However no, for me it’s the Coconut LaCroix. Have you ever ever heard of that one? I’ve associates it’s like their favourite. However it’s only a polarizing one, in my view, as a result of I really feel like I purchased a case for a celebration as soon as and it was like, folks had been like, oh my gosh, my favourite. Or they’re like, oh my gosh, no, it tastes like sunscreen.

Elsie: Humorous. I believe my eyes simply skip over that one as a result of I can’t even keep in mind the final time I purchased that one. I’ll say I can drink any of them if I’ve to, if it’s the final one within the fridge, I’ll drink it it doesn’t matter what.

Emma: Aside from coconut, I wouldn’t drink it, however that’s the one one which I’d be like, nah, I’m simply gonna drink faucet water. 

Elsie: Properly, I’m glad I received that off my chest as a result of I’ve been wanting to do this listing for like, 10 years. 

Emma: No, I see you’re going via it and I like, this could possibly be like half an episode if we needed to, I might speak about this for some time.

Elsie: Okay. Inform me your responsible pleasure, treasure. 

Emma: Sure, so I discussed jewellery making, in order that’s sort of my responsible pleasure factor. I most likely spend an excessive amount of cash on beads and different jewelry-making provides. I purchased myself a caboodle that has all my stuff in it, but it surely’s already full and now I’ve to have one other field. So it’s that sort of factor. We’ll hyperlink this within the present notes. However I lately shared this necklace, I used to be engaged on a publish that’s shrinky dink’s final information and it simply goes via the right way to make your individual DIY ones, what papers and kits I like and suppose work effectively, and the undertaking that I made to sort of showcase as a result of I needed to point out a undertaking on there clearly not similar to papers and issues. Was this e-book covers necklace I made the place it has, I took like a few of my favourite books and I simply received the pictures off the web of the duvet, I made them in shrinky dinks and I actually wanna make them, it’s similar to random favourite books. After which I additionally wanna make a Harry Potter one which’s like all of the Harry Potter e-book covers, so I’m gonna make that. However anyway, I used to be speaking with my good friend, so I discussed my e-book membership and all my associates, a few of us, we’re gonna go to Taylor Swift later this summer season. We’re gonna see the Taylor Swift live performance, we’re actually enthusiastic about that and so they had been like, let’s do a jewelry-making celebration and make friendship bracelets and it could possibly be sort of Taylor Swifty, like do some lyrics or no matter. In my thoughts I used to be like, oh, I’m gonna do make my shrinky dinks and I’m gonna make album covers after which they are often like charms that we placed on our bracelets. So I suppose my responsible pleasure is shrinky dinks. 

Elsie: Okay, we’ll hyperlink Emma’s new weblog publish about shrinky inks as a result of it’s actually good. I really like that concept for the live performance, I believe that’s so cute. 

Emma: Yeah, it’s similar to enjoyable and random, and I truly was simply making that necklace purely for pleasure, however then I used to be like, oh, I’ve been wanting to put in writing about shrinky dings, I suppose I might make this right into a weblog publish. Quite a lot of occasions our hobbies do flip into work slightly bit, which I don’t thoughts if I truly simply love our job too. I’m grateful for the entire thing however there are occasions I strive to not mix the 2 simply so I can hold issues. However this one ended up blended, which is okay. It doesn’t matter, but it surely’s nonetheless gonna be my responsible pleasure for this episode. 

Elsie: I really like that. That’s a humorous one.

Emma: Shrinky. Dinks. 

Elsie: Sure. Enjoyable.  All proper. It’s time for a joke or a reality with Marigold. Marigold, do you’ve gotten a joke for us? 

Marigold: Sure. What does a rose eat for lunch? A rooster salad. 

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