Episode #184: Adorning the Exterior of Your Home

This week, we’re speaking about the right way to make the skin of your property appear and feel as cozy as the within of your property. Plus, we now have a listener query about the right way to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing the job proper.

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Present Notes:


Entrance Door: 

Home windows:

Porch Concepts:

  • Wraparound porch
  • Get a swing or daybed swing 
  • Put out a bit of desk and chairs
  • Use string lights
  • Put in a fire
  • Add a TV



  • See what blooms your first yr
  • Do some bit at a time

Again patio:



  • Have it match the persona of your property
  • Try Emma’s mailbox magnet


  • Plan forward
  • Everlasting Christmas lights
  • Print out an image of the outside of your home and draw out your plans

Listener Query:

What are your ideas, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with contractor points, particularly as ladies? 

  • Learn Elsie’s weblog about Ideas for Hiring a Contractor
  • Maintain bothering them
  • Give your self a pep speak afterward
  • Ask your loved ones and associates for his or her opinions

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Episode 184 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week we’re speaking about the right way to make the skin of your property appear and feel as cozy as the within of your property. Plus, we now have a listener query about the right way to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing their job proper. My favourite topic. Okay, so somebody DMed me and so they stated, that is so cute. I can’t cease fascinated by it. So at our new home in Missouri, they stated that they used to stay sort of subsequent door to it or one thing. And that at one level within the Nineties, they noticed an enormous wedding ceremony hosted there within the yard. It was proper after our Father of the Bride episode got here out. And so they simply needed to inform me and so they stated it was actually magical. It had lights, it had tents, it had all of the issues and I want I might see it. I like the concept of nonetheless throwing some sort of, it doesn’t need to be a marriage, however some sort of big social gathering there. Possibly a marriage, possibly one thing else sometime, but it surely made my coronary heart really feel so many issues.

Emma: That’s so cute. That’s the sweetest DM ever. You additionally haven’t proven the home very a lot so I completely consider that they did stay subsequent door cuz to ensure that them to have the ability to like, acknowledge it from what you’ve gotten shared they need to actually know this home. 

Elsie: Yeah. The neighborhood, everybody sort of is aware of once I was strolling across the neighborhood final time, I used to be there, Each single individual that talked to me was like, so that you’re shifting into that home?

Emma: It’s a close-knit space. 

Elsie: Yeah. So anyway, this episode is all about adorning the outside of your property. I’m so excited to do ours. So I like the way in which that exterior appears, however I feel it has much more potential that may be unlocked. And I positively suppose yours as effectively. So Emma’s home, she’s presently doing her exteriors, like portray, renovation, and stuff. And he or she has an enormous yard that she’s saving for later, so I can’t wait to see what you bounce into that ultimately, like what you do of it. 

Emma: Yeah, so we are able to speak about paint as a result of truly as we’re recording this, we have been alleged to get our brick lime washed this week, but it surely didn’t work out as a result of they need to have three days of no rain in order that the paint can treatment correctly. And this week it was sort of on and off within the forecast of a bit of little bit of rain. So we’re hoping for subsequent week, however this time of yr it rains on and off pretty steadily, so it might even be one other month, who is aware of? However I’m very excited when it does occur as a result of we now have a largely white, home, however then we now have a bit of little bit of brick, and so we’re gonna get that lime washed. So lime wash, it could actually imply plenty of various things. So for us, what we’re wanting is the place you sort of see the brick a bit of bit. You continue to see that there’s pink brick underneath there. It’s nearly sort of like a cloudy look. It’s very cottage core, shabby stylish, it’s sort of that sort of factor. And for us, we don’t have tons of brick. It’s not the entire home, so it’s sort of gonna be an accent. So I really feel prefer it’s gonna be a pleasant juxtaposition with the white siding we now have, which appears fairly plain and boring, simply being sincere. It’s like fairly boring. So I really feel like this can give it sort of one thing. In the meanwhile, it’s identical to very pink brick and it’s just a bit an excessive amount of visible distinction for my eyes, and likewise let you know it simply doesn’t actually appear to have any type. So I’m very excited for this lime washing. However once more, might have occurred this week, didn’t occur due to the climate. We’ll see. I’m hoping for subsequent week. May even be a month although. Who is aware of? 

Elsie: So portray brick, it’s positively a regional factor. So the place I grew up in Missouri, I feel individuals are sort of beginning to do it now a bit of bit extra, however individuals used to actually villainize and it’s positively a cold and hot matter, however there’s lots of people who suppose that it’s like actually dangerous to color a brick dwelling.

However once I moved to Nashville, I used to be seeing it in all places. Simply everybody paints their brick houses right here, it’s very extraordinarily widespread. In order that was what gave me the braveness to do it for the primary time. After which after that, I by no means turned again, I paint a brick dwelling on a regular basis now. On my first two homes, I painted them with standard latex paint. Within the final home that we painted, we used Roman bio paint, which is a non-toxic, environmentally pleasant mineral paint. And the factor that’s cool about it’s that lots of people will say you shouldn’t paint homes as a result of then the brick can’t breathe, and with this paint, it’s like portray brick with a layer of white brick. So it’s the identical materials and your home can nonetheless breathe. So it lasts longer, it’s extra sustainable. The factor that’s powerful about it although, is it’s more durable to discover a painter who needs to make use of that materials as a result of it’s not as widespread. So anyway, I’ll hyperlink that within the weblog, if anybody’s curious. However yeah, I feel that portray a home is likely one of the greatest issues you are able to do for curb attraction, I like to recommend it. So the pink home is a wooden home, possibly it’s wooden siding, I’m undecided, after which our new dwelling is sort of a clapboard home, so it’s wooden. So that they’re each painted already and part of proudly owning these homes is that it’s important to maintain them painted and sustain with it. It’s an necessary a part of the upkeep of proudly owning a woodhouse. So with our pink home, we determined to do a press release colour as a result of to start with, it matches into the neighborhood. There have been already plenty of homes within the neighborhood that had a bit of little bit of colour. It’s not like Charleston, but it surely’s positively much more than every other neighborhood in our hometown. Similar to homes with a bit of little bit of colour, a bit of bit extra risk-taking is the appropriate phrase, however just a bit bit extra of an open-minded vibe. Individuals all the time ask me if the neighbors hated it. I by no means heard of anybody who hated it, however I’m positive somebody most likely didn’t prefer it. I don’t know as a result of it’s pink. It’s a pink home, but it surely’s not the one pink home, I don’t suppose, is it? 

Emma: I don’t suppose it’s. No. It’s the one one among that specific pink, however no, I can consider one different that’s like a pink home and it’s the one which’s in heavy disrepair anyway. Anyway, there’s at the least one different pink one which I might consider. 

Elsie: And in addition pink is a historic dwelling colour. It’s a extra widespread dwelling colour from the times of previous, that’s additionally why I needed to do it. So anyway, I assumed it was enjoyable. It was simply a possibility as a result of it’s very small. What do you name it? Like a bungalow-style home. So it simply sort of made sense. It match prefer it felt good for our new dwelling since it’s the clapboard and it’s already white, I actually simply can’t think about it every other colour. So I feel that I’m fairly positive it that can all the time maintain it white. However who is aware of? By no means say by no means. However a possibility for portray on the outside is certainly the porch in the intervening time. The porch must be repainted actually badly. It’s across the entrance steps space, while you first stroll up, it’s like actually chipping off. So I do know that’s one among our first tasks that we have to do. So I discovered this important colour referred to as Dorian Grey, so I used to be fascinated by utilizing that. You understand, I’ve my Dorian Grey factor. If I wanna do a impartial colour, or I might do some extra of a enjoyable colour, I don’t know.

Emma: Yeah. Didn’t you say lots of people instructed you to color it blue, to inform the ghost to go away? 

Elsie: Okay. So it’s, it’s a Southern factor that in case you paint your porch ceiling blue. So while you look on Pinterest at porches, wraparound porches, and porch decorations, you’ll see a lot of porches with a painted blue ceiling, and now I sort of know why. I don’t know if that’s the one motive, or if some individuals possibly simply see it and so they’re like, oh, that’s a cute colour, I’ll do mine that approach too. Yeah, however I to start with don’t actually need a blue ceiling. However second of all, I’m not likely afraid of ghosts. So in case you see me portray my porch ceiling blue although, now you’ll know that one thing actually bizarre occurred. You’d be like, we have to ship her some flowers. 

Emma: She’d be like, it was between this and an exorcism. So I’m portray it blue. 

Elsie: Yeah. Our solar porch was truly, the ceiling was painted a teal blue once we moved in. However we painted over it white simply to, I don’t know, I simply needed it to be all white. I simply didn’t wanna have a press release ceiling in there. Yeah. Anyway, let’s keep centered on the outside trigger that’s what this episode is about. 

Emma: Yeah. Nicely, alongside portray exteriors, let’s speak about one other necessary exterior factor that you just paint typically, entrance doorways. 

Elsie: Okay. So the assertion entrance door is such a enjoyable matter, and I’m excited to speak about this. So, to start with, I like assertion entrance doorways, I’ve had them in nearly all of my houses. I feel on my first dwelling we did a traditional black entrance door. After which after that, I used to be like we had a pink door after which we had a blue door, after which now we now have one other pink door after which we had a inexperienced door. So I like the assertion entrance door. I feel it’s very enjoyable. I simply suppose it’s good. However the one factor I’ll say is there’s this one home in our neighborhood proper now the place once I all the time attempt to combat, I’m like, oh, the assertion door doesn’t match the home although. You understand what I imply? So that you do need to mix it with what your home already is. If you happen to’re not gonna paint the entire home, you do need to sort of settle for your home for what it’s and decide a colour that’s cohesive with that, I feel. 

Emma: That’s what I feel too. I’ll say if it’s your home and you haven’t any HOA in your again, do no matter you need. If it makes you cheerful to color it, that one teal that you just actually love, despite the fact that it doesn’t go together with the remainder of the home, that’s tremendous. Go for it. Yeah, to me it’s like sort of a missed alternative once I see one which simply doesn’t, as a result of I’m like, there’s so many colours that might work and also you picked the one which doesn’t actually match. So it seems like this door doesn’t belong to this home, which is ok. It’s your home, no matter. However I’m gonna go on my stroll and I’m gonna choose your entrance door. So simply know that’s occurring.

Elsie: In our new home, we now have a display screen door, so I would paint the entrance door, however I really feel prefer it gained’t actually be as a lot of a factor to have a look at from the skin due to the, it’s like a wooden display screen door, it’s like a really traditional, like a southern door. I find it irresistible, I feel it’s sensible as a result of it’s like mosquito land and stuff. I’m fascinated by portray the within of the entrance door. However yeah, I feel if I wanna have like a enjoyable assertion door, I would do like our little pottery shed within the yard. I would do a aspect door, I would do one thing else, I feel.

Emma: Yeah, and we’ve had painted entrance doorways previously too. In all probability my favourite was we had this yellow door on the primary dwelling that Tray and I lived in collectively. And I painted it with my associates at some point and it was actually enjoyable. So presently we simply have this type of fashionable wooden door that has frosted panels and we simply bought it from Lowe’s. It’s not likely something all that particular, to be sincere, but it surely appears very nice. Our door earlier than had an enormous crack in it, the door that got here with the home and we simply weren’t actually in love with the type of it anyway. And like I stated, the window was tremendous cracked so we changed it with that. And I’m having them, each time they do the outside of the home, we’re sort of matching the wooden. We’re including panels of wooden underneath a number of the home windows. Virtually like a planter field, but it surely’s not truly a planter field cuz I’ve no inexperienced thumb in any respect. And I’ll by no means put crops in them as a result of they may simply die as a result of I don’t know what I’m doing. So it’s identical to a bit of wooden, however visually I feel it would learn sort of like a planter field with out flowers and it simply matches the entrance door. Due to that, I’ve no plan to color our entrance door ever. I simply plan to maintain it the wooden that it’s and it appears actually fairly. It’s like a very nice wooden and it’s been sealed so you possibly can actually see all of the wooden grain and it’s actually fairly. 

Elsie: However yeah, only for the document, we’re pro-statement door. Do decide one thing that likes vibes with your home, however I feel it’s magical. I feel it’s a type of enjoyable moments in life like one of many issues that owners get to do this’s actually particular.

Emma: Yeah. And in case you’re a seasonal wreath individual, which I’m, you then do have to consider your entrance door because the backdrop for all of your seasonal wreaths. So I’d suppose that by. So guarantee that it’s gonna go effectively along with your Halloween wreath and your Christmas wreath. Possibly you don’t care, however I do. 

Elsie: That’s how I make all of my dwelling selections. I by no means decide with out pondering of the way it will look throughout Halloween and Christmas as a result of it’s so necessary to me and I stretch them out for at the least an additional month every. Okay, the opposite factor I like for entrance doorways is selecting a classic knocker, I’ve talked about this earlier than. I selected one for my new home already. I select one for each dwelling, and so they’re all sort of not humorous, however they’ve a persona to them as a result of there are classic brass, tits. There are such a lot of completely different ones you could find. I feel our first one was a pineapple after which we had a butterfly at one among our BMBs and I bear in mind at Casey’s home I did a horseshoe and at my new home, I’m doing the bat. I’m doing a brass bat, it’s magical. It’s sort of a enjoyable custom that I like to do like choosing the door knocker. 

Emma: Yeah, at my Harry Potter home in Florida, which we not personal, however there may be an owl brass knocker as a result of , Harry Potter. 

Elsie: Okay, so for home windows, to start with, do you want shutters? Are you a shutter individual? 

Emma: I like shutters. We don’t have them and I don’t really need them, however I like taking a look at them. 

Elsie: Lots of people have requested me if I’d add shutters to our new home as a result of it sort of appears just like the film homes that I all the time put, that it sort of appears like each have black shutters. However I truly suppose our home is just not meant to have shutters the dimensions of the home windows is I feel it’s larger than you suppose. So from what I’ve learn, the one approach to do shutters is to have them be like actual shutters that might actually shut and so they have correct {hardware} and so they’re not like only a ornament, they’re an actual working factor. With a purpose to do this, they’d be big. So I simply don’t suppose that our home wants it or needs it. So at the moment, I’m nobody shutters, however I do love how they give the impression of being and throughout our neighborhood, there are such a lot of homes with fairly shutters and I feel it’s magical.

Emma: And you are feeling they need to be actual since you would need to use them such as you would need to pull them closed typically. 

Elsie: I imply, , I like my Finish of the World books, so sure. But additionally I feel it’s simply type of like an authenticity factor for like individuals who like previous homes, it’s such as you wanna do it the way in which it might’ve been achieved in that period.

Emma: Yeah, I get that. Nicely, as much as you. 

Elsie: I might let you know it’s silly. 

Emma: Yeah, I do. I don’t have to say it, however of notice on the vacation home, the shutters on the entrance of the home, and on the entrance porch have been positively not actual. They have been positively simply nailed in place and I assumed they regarded fairly good.

Elsie: I’m simply saying if I have been gonna do them I’d wanna make them actual functioning shutters. 

Emma: Okay. Nicely, that’s as much as you however I do suppose they’d look fairly cool. So if the one approach to do it was faux ones, I’m voting in opposition to you, but it surely’s your home. So clearly do no matter you need. 

Elsie: Take a look at it yet another time in an image, as a result of on the entrance window within the heart to the highest, there’s an oddly formed window and I’m simply undecided how it might work, like in case you simply wouldn’t put the shutters on all of the home windows or it simply sort of seems like it might be a bit of bit, I don’t know.

Emma: I’m pondering of it extra as purely an aesthetic factor and never you’re going to make use of them in any respect. That’s so we’re most likely simply not pondering like we’re not on the identical web page since you like need to use them. In order that’s very completely different as a result of it’s like then they could need to be like big or oddly formed relying in your home windows and yeah, that sounds most likely much more costly and probably problematic, however I’m simply pondering like cool ones that possibly have like moons carved in ’em or one thing. I don’t know. Or simply black wines. 

Elsie: So that you suppose I ought to put shutters on the entrance of the home? 

Emma: Yeah, I do, faux ones. 

Elsie: Subsequent time I speak to somebody concerning the exterior I’ll ask some questions, I’m curious now. All proper, let’s speak about porches. Porches are every thing to me. So I’ve already talked about this like 85 occasions, however I promise you it’s gonna be 85 extra. At our new home, my dream is to make a porch that you may stroll all the way in which round. A literal, all-the-way stroll across the porch. What do you name it, wraparound porch and you may truly stroll all the way in which round it, a few of it would have doorways, a few of it gained’t and a few of will probably be sunrooms. One in every of it’s gonna be like an artwork room, a few of will probably be porches. It’s so magical to me. So, yeah I like porches. In our first Nashville home, we had a sunroom and it was positively one of the stunning rooms in the home. It was very photogenic and it was very enjoyable to brighten. However because it was a 3 seasons room and also you couldn’t use it within the winter, it was sort of a bummer a number of the years. So I discovered from that have that I’d reasonably have identical to all the way in which a porch, only a porch as you go on the market, you sit within the recent air, or if it’s a sunroom that’s closed in with home windows, I would like it to be like heated and cooled and be like part of the house. In order that’s a giant precedence for me now. Enjoyable issues about porches, so you are able to do swings, you are able to do a bit of desk and chairs. You are able to do the daybed swing. What are a few of your favourite decorations for porches? 

Emma: Yeah. I like a swing. I like a daybed swing. Our porch is sort of unusual in a approach. It’s a correct porch but it surely’s plenty of poured cement with a few bushes, like area the place the tree is rising out. It’s like a bonsai tree or one thing, I don’t actually know. And there’s not likely a spot to place a swing, however we used to all the time sit and swing with Oscar when he was a child at our final home. So I sort of miss it, however I don’t even know if he would take pleasure in it anymore. Now he needs to be strolling, we now have his little bike out on the entrance porch, it’s tucked beneath the awning. And this little cozy coop automobile, he likes to get in that and stuff. So I don’t know if we’re gonna do much more to our entrance porch simply because there isn’t actually, it’s not plenty of it’s lined. There’s only a small area that’s lined and it’s sort of taken up by Oscar’s automobile and bike proper now. However we sit on the market lots proper now and eat dinner, Oscar loves being exterior usually. And so we’ll make dinner and take all of it exterior after daycare and simply sit on the market and eat and he’ll watch vehicles go by. And he likes to level out if it’s a automobile or a truck or no matter. Someday a trash truck honked at us as a result of he was waving and that was, I feel, probably the most thrilling second of his life, he was so into it. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh, how cute. Yeah. I like porches. So within the neighborhood, we’re shifting in Springfield, there are plenty of porches which have string lights and I feel that’s actually charming. It’s not like Christmas lights, it’s all yr spherical. While you stroll round at night time, there’s simply plenty of porches which might be lit up with string lights and so I assumed that was actually candy. When you’ve got an opportunity to place a fire in your porch, I feel that’s epic. Actually a porch with a fire it’s epic, it’s wonderful. I’d like to do like a eating desk porch ultimately. I feel that’s actually thrilling for just like the again of the home.

Emma: What do you concentrate on, well-designed and putting TVs on porches? What are your ideas? 

Elsie: I’m professional TV on a porch as a result of I simply suppose if it makes you utilize it extra, then it’s good. And I feel that there might need been a time in my life once I was snobby about TVs, however it’s not now.

Emma: Yeah, I just about agree. We’ve got no place for one, however I’d completely put one simply to observe an episode of one thing and eat breakfast on our porch or one thing. Actually within the night, in the summertime it may be sort of mosquito land, so then it’s important to actually work out your plan for that. However in the course of the day, within the morning, it tends to be fairly good. 

Elsie: I feel it’s a good suggestion truly. If this area requires it and it really works, possibly it might make you utilize your porch extra. I feel that’s a very powerful factor as a result of I’ve had porches that we use always, and I’ve had ones that we by no means used in any respect. And so I feel simply creating routines that make you constantly use it’s actually necessary. Particularly proper while you first transfer in. So the following half is walkways. So I feel when you’ve got an opportunity to replace walkways, driveways, issues like that, that may be an enormous improve. These days, it’s springtime proper now, in order I’ve been driving round, I’ve seen so many individuals pouring driveways and I’m like, oh, good for you, it’s so cute. So my dream is to have a brick pathway, for the pathway that goes as much as the home after which the pathways that type of lead round within the again. I simply suppose that brick pathways are so cute.

Emma: Oh yeah. A brick pathway is a really magical, very secret backyard. So we now have a couple of walkways, I assume I’ve two issues. One is principally we now have these actually massive, pretty lavender bushes on our again, in between the way you enter our yard and the place the storage is, and final yr they weren’t completely blooming but, however final yr they smelled wonderful. We didn’t stay in the home but, however we’d come to examine it lots. And yeah, they simply smelled wonderful, I don’t know if it’s like edible lavender or not, I’m not likely positive. I’m positive I might determine that out. However I did discover final yr that it had tons of bees and so I’m fascinated by that this yr. I’m a bit of not sure if we’re gonna maintain them as a result of I do suppose they scent superior. However Oscar is rather like, that’s a spot he’s at lots as a result of we go out and in of the yard on a regular basis as a result of he’ll wanna play within the yard after which we go within the entrance yard, after which , forwards and backwards fairly a bit. So I’m just a bit involved concerning the variety of bees I noticed. I don’t know if there’s one thing I ought to do for there to be much less bees. I feel bees are necessary, so I don’t actually need to do something that essentially deters them as a result of clearly, they’re simply doing what bees do, however I don’t know, so I’m sort of fascinated by that. I’m undecided what we’re gonna do that yr. They’re simply beginning to bloom, so we’ll see. But when Oscar and I each get stung an entire bunch, I’ll be like, okay, the place you’ve gotta do one thing.

Elsie: Possibly there are different crops or I wager our listeners will be capable to provide you with some recommendation on that. That attention-grabbing. 

Emma: Yeah, as a result of I don’t wanna do something to kill the bees or something like that. I’m simply pondering we’d transfer the bushes. Truly, a contractor we labored with I already talked about, would completely take them and plant them at his home if we needed. So I used to be like, okay, I have already got somebody, they wouldn’t go to waste, however I’m like, effectively, I don’t know, we’ll see. One other factor I needed to say, that is considerably associated, but it surely’s simply an exterior factor, are we bought a bit of free library put in, we had a useless tree in our entrance yard and once we bought it lower down, we instructed them to depart like a four-foot stump and since you may get them to chop it approach down and even grind the stump and I stated, no, go away it 4 foot as a result of I’m gonna put a bit of free library on high of it. So we now have a bit of free library and I’ve seen that folks within the neighborhood are utilizing it fairly a bit. I’ve gotten quite a few books out of there for Oscar. Each time I put in books, I all the time discover how shortly they go and it’s all the time the romance novels that go the quickest and I find it irresistible. And I’ve lots to place in there so heads up neighborhood and proper by our little free library we’ve additionally began to make what I name a fairy backyard, but it surely’s principally little ceramic animals that I discover at thrift shops and Oscar and I put them on the market and he simply likes to play with them once we’re on the market and so they’re very breakable. He’s damaged one earlier than as a result of he threw it onto the sidewalk and it cracked and broke and it’s tremendous as a result of we’re exterior. So it’s not like inside when glass breaks or one thing, they’re not glass, they’re ceramic. However we now have a monkey and a few canines and a cat and a fish and an owl and when he sees the owl he’ll go, who, who and it’s actually cute. In order that’s our little fairy backyard, I’d actually wish to make it much more aesthetic and cute sooner or later. However in the intervening time it’s identical to stuff that Oscar likes and he strikes them round and performs with them whereas we’re on the market and it’s simply enjoyable. Simply makes it a bit of vacation spot the place we are able to stroll on the market and play with him a bit of after which go do one thing else and at his age that’s nice. 

Elsie: Magical. Okay, let’s speak about landscaping for a second, as a result of I really feel like that may be a actually necessary a part of curb attraction, it may be a giant improve. So on our final dwelling we most likely did probably the most landscaping we’ve achieved as a result of I do know this story earlier than, however after we bought our home painted I used to be like, this appears nice. When ought to we take images? And the home painter was like, effectively, I feel it’s essential to remove all the landscaping and do all new, and I used to be like, What, I had by no means been instructed such a giant job earlier than and it seems he was proper once we did do this job. I bear in mind on the time it felt like such a giant change. It turned out actually cute. There’s like plenty of little tiny boxwood-looking bushes after which we did hydrangeas and we did panes for spring after which we had a spot to do one new tree, so we did like a ginkgo tree as a result of I like the yellow leaves at fall time and it was a really magical expertise and I can’t wait to do it once more. I feel it opened up my thoughts lots to how worthwhile it landscaping could be as a result of it feels sort of daunting and it feels very costly and it is rather costly. However when you’ve achieved it and seen what a giant improve it may be, I feel it felt much more value it to me.

Emma: I actually felt that approach even about portray the outside of your home. Once I was youthful, I assumed, oh, I wouldn’t spend the cash on that I’d reasonably spend the cash I’ve to repair up my home on the within as a result of I’m all the time inside. And I feel in case you’re on a good funds, like yeah, that is sensible, I get it. However after you’ve painted the outside or no matter you’ve achieved, after you’ve achieved one thing to the outside, you then see what a giant distinction it makes and the sensation it provides you while you pull as much as your home. And in addition in case you spend plenty of time in your entrance porch or your yard or no matter, then yeah, you simply sort of come to worth it otherwise, or I’ve, possibly not everybody, however I do. So I might positively see that with landscaping, we sort of have current stuff from the earlier proprietor, a lot of bushes and timber which might be coming again to life now and we’re hibernating all this winter. This yr is basically identical to seeing if every thing comes again, what it’s wish to attempt to keep it if we’re not in a position to, like what are we gonna do otherwise to ensure it’s nonetheless engaging, like are we gonna exchange this or that? In order that’s actually all we’re doing this yr is making an attempt to determine like, what is that this deal with? What are these bushes? Will they keep alive this summer time? I don’t know. So we’re simply gonna do our greatest and see. 

Elsie: Completely. Yeah. I feel giving it a bit of little bit of time to identical to see what blooms your first spring is basically sensible as a result of it could possibly be stunning. If you happen to first see it when every thing’s useless, there could be plenty of perennials that you just don’t even learn about. Yeah. It’s very enjoyable although, I feel in case you’ve by no means achieved it earlier than and also you’re gonna do it to your first time, my recommendation is to only be inspired, and do some bit at a time. It’s value it for me, at first it felt prefer it was within the boring money-to-spend class for home stuff. However ultimately, I sort of got here to understand it and find it irresistible, so now I’m excited to do extra. The subsequent one is the again patio. So I feel that your again porch can actually be the guts of your property. My favourite approach to make use of it or the way in which for it to be is that if your kitchen will set free into your backspace. I feel that’s like wonderful. That’s the way it’s been at our dwelling in Tennessee and it simply made it actually cozy as a result of it’s your outside kitchen is subsequent to your indoor kitchen and your outside eating is subsequent to your kitchen and it simply all sort of matches collectively rather well. So in case you’re planning an area from scratch, I’d actually suggest that. Clearly not each home is gonna have that. Our first home in Tennessee had this, it’s so random, however the kitchen was within the very entrance of the home. There was no doable approach that it might ever join in any approach and it was all the time at the back of my thoughts once I lived there. Anyway, let’s speak about a few concepts for how one can improve your again patio. So I simply bought new porch furnishings for our new home and I didn’t know, so have you learnt the model Trex, they make like decking that you just by no means have to exchange. So I came upon that they make tables and I bought a type of tables. I’m actually enthusiastic about it as a result of I don’t know what number of occasions previously, which is my very own fault, however I’d get a really cheap wooden desk from Goal or one thing the place I’d put a desk on the market that basically shouldn’t be on the market after which a season or two later it’s like utterly trashed.

Emma: I would purchase a type of then as a result of we presently don’t have a again patio and we don’t actually have any lined space in our yard in any respect. And we simply don’t actually have the cash to do like an enormous pour cement and large awning and we don’t actually have the funds for that proper now. However I’d actually like to put a desk again there as a result of Oscar and I’ll sit again there and eat dinner and Trey too, it’s not like Trey’s not round. The routine is I decide him up from faculty, so we eat not likely even dinner, however like snacks and it’s simply me and him after which Trey comes dwelling. However anyway, this most likely seems like my husband’s by no means dwelling. I’m like, no, he’s. He simply comes dwelling about an hour later than me. However yeah, possibly I’ll get a type of tables now that you just’re mentioning it as a result of I’m like, I would like one thing that may sit out within the solar and the climate and gained’t get utterly ruined as a result of I simply haven’t been motivated to purchase one thing. So I’m like, it’s gonna get utterly ruined in a single season as a result of there’s simply no cowl for it, in order that’s an concept. 

Elsie: I’m sort of on the level in my life the place I’m like, I’m not shopping for outside furnishings if it’s not weatherproof and I’m excited to see, I assume I’ll need to see it for a few seasons to see how effectively it wears and like how it’s to wash up within the spring and issues like that. However yeah, it’s value it to me. I like outside furnishings, however in case you don’t have a lined area, then I feel it’s important to be much more intentional concerning the stuff you select to place out. 

Emma: You wanna hear our humorous factor about our yard? Again patio. We don’t have a patio as I discussed, we’re getting one for Oscar’s birthday in June, we’re getting him a sandbox as a result of he loves enjoying within the grime and I’m a bit of uninterested in it. So we’re getting the sandbox so he can play in that sandbox as a lot as he needs. And I’m gonna get the type that has a canopy as a result of we don’t have any cowl again there, so it may be lined up once we’re not enjoying with it. However I’m actually excited. I feel he’s gonna find it irresistible. So I’m actually enthusiastic about it. 

Elsie: That’s a enjoyable concept. I like that. Let’s speak concerning the yard for a bit of bit. Oh my gosh. Yard. So I’ve discovered a lot, I really feel like, so our first home in Tennessee had this big yard. All it had in it was playhouses. So it was just about like an acre of yard that you just simply mow and I discovered from that have that I needed a extra concise yard, that was helpful. It’s nice to have a giant yard if it’s helpful, however I didn’t wanna simply have an enormous yard that was identical to a garden mowing invoice or no matter. After which in our present dwelling, we now have truly a reasonably small yard, our Tennessee dwelling, feels prefer it’s largely the swimming pool. Yeah. After which there are a few aspect yards which might be a bit of bit awkward to get to. So that they actually don’t get used a lot, they don’t get performed a lot. So if our youngsters play exterior, they often play within the entrance of the home, like within the driveway and stuff, and within the again within the pool space. In all probability one of many smallest yards we’ve had. Not plenty of play area. I felt like we bought a lot out of it as a result of it was well-planned. It had an out of doors eating desk. We had the cornhole recreation, which our youngsters love. We had a fireplace pit, which they love. It was very helpful and useful. So it taught me that we don’t actually need a giant yard, we simply want a extremely well-planned yard. So with our new dwelling, I’m making an attempt to be very cautious within the planning. So yeah, I’ve been getting my swimming pool quote. Everybody, cross your fingers for me as a result of I’m terrified. I simply suppose that while you stay in the course of the nation, swimming swimming pools are costlier as a result of they’re simply not as widespread and there aren’t as many corporations to select from and it’s simply not as aggressive. However yeah, we’re planning for that. A fireplace pit, I’d wish to have some sort of play area, however I wanna be certain it’s gonna get used lots. And I’d wish to have some sort of yard that’s open to run in, however not lots, identical to the correct quantity. So yeah, that’s my plan in the intervening time. I’ve redrawn it like 100 occasions so simply to encourage anybody who’s shifting to a brand new area or planning your yard, you possibly can’t overthink it. Actually, actually take into consideration like how every thing can join collectively as a result of it’s so a lot better to plan it again and again earlier than you’ve spent any cash than to begin doing it and have regrets. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. And yeah, we don’t have any big plans for our yard in the intervening time. We sort of have to get our fence changed, but it surely’s gonna be like 20 to $30,000. So, we’ve sort of been placing it off. We’ve got a fence and it’s tremendous, however our canine retains discovering methods to flee and he by no means runs away. He identical to waits on the entrance door however he’ll sort of terrorize different people who find themselves strolling with their canines as a result of he’s not nice with different canines, that’s not good. So we’re simply making an attempt to suppose that by. We even have his dream, I’d like to get a golf cart. Our neighborhood’s very windy and it’s an awesome place for teenagers to experience their bikes and stuff. Individuals don’t actually drive by tremendous quick, it’s simply very windy. So anyway, you possibly can positively drive a golf cart round our neighborhood and get to the neighborhood pool from our home. You can positively stroll, however it might take some time and in case you’re with a bit of child and you’ve got a bunch of stuff like pool stuff, you’re not gonna do this. So I sort of thought the golf cart could possibly be nice for going to the pool in the summertime with Oscar. I even have this dream with the golf cart that possibly I might do some sort of spooky hay experience or some sort of spooky, everybody hops on the little prepare, we’re going trick-or-treating across the neighborhood with the golf cart and it might appear to be a monster. I might adorn, I don’t know. I don’t precisely know, however I simply really feel like there’s one thing there that could possibly be enjoyable however our drawback is we don’t know the place to retailer the golf cart. We’ve got a two-car storage and we every have a automobile. So our storage is just not actually sufficiently big that we might put the golf cart in there.

So we don’t actually know the place it might go, as a result of we wouldn’t need it to only be sitting out on a regular basis. So it must go within the yard someplace, but it surely must be one thing at the least lined, if not a bit of construction. In order that’s type of the place we cease is we’re like, we don’t know the way the golf cart’s gonna get taken care of, be saved when it’s not in use. So then we simply sort of dunno what to do with that. I’ll determine it out sometime. I’m gonna be driving round and the golf cart’s gonna be dressed like a monster for Halloween. I don’t know. In order that we are able to trick or deal with.

Elsie: Maintain pondering in that route. I positively suppose it’s a cute concept. The very last thing is a mailbox. So I had a mid-century mailbox in one among our homes, and I bear in mind, I felt prefer it was such a splurge on the time. And now we now have an antiquey trying mailbox at our new home. I simply suppose mailboxes, like why not make them match the persona of your property? I feel that’s very candy. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. Ours is this type of metallic and swings open proper exterior our entrance door and I find it irresistible. I don’t plan to exchange it in the intervening time, however I’ll say although, you know the way while you put mail in to your mail provider pickup, you flip up a flag often. A normal mailbox has a flag.

Elsie: Do it’s important to use an in depth pin on the skin or one thing? 

Emma: Yeah, it has to have one thing like that. So I went on-line and I used to be like, effectively there’s gotta be some answer for this, I’ve seen mailboxes like this earlier than. I’ve by no means had one, however there’s one thing and so I regarded round and principally what it has proper now could be this little tiny plastic flag that you may push out or shut and it’s on the mailbox with a command strip and it’s labored. Nevertheless it requires you to very rigorously open and shut it and the mail provider is closing it and I don’t know her or him, however they’re doing nothing fallacious, it’s not nice. It’s not an awesome answer, the command strip, as a result of it’s additionally like instructions strips are nice. If you happen to’ve heard me say it when you’ve heard it a thousand occasions. I like command strips. However they’re not all the time nice outdoor. It may get very chilly right here, with freezing temperatures. It’s additionally very moist at occasions. And this summer time it’ll get actually scorching. So I’m simply looking for one other answer and principally on Amazon, I noticed these little magnets that like say, oh, cute, decide up the mail. And so that you simply put the magnet on the skin. Of the metallic after which they’ll simply put it on the within as soon as they’ve picked up the mail. And so I purchased a type of and it hasn’t are available in but, however I’m actually enthusiastic about it. It has a bit of image of a mail truck on it. It’s a tiny bit tacky, however I simply really feel prefer it’s gonna be an excellent answer for the kind of mailbox we now have as a result of there’s been quite a few occasions I wanted one thing to exit and the mail provider didn’t notice I had one thing within the field and it didn’t exit and that’s sort of a bummer. 

Elsie: That’s tremendous annoying. That’s a cute concept. Okay, effectively good. We’ll need to hyperlink that within the present notes as a result of I wager there’s somebody on the market, that’s additionally the right answer. 

Emma: Yeah, somebody ought to begin promoting his on Etsy in the event that they haven’t already as a result of they’re actually cute and so they’re identical to magnets.

Elsie: Okay. The final a part of adorning the outside of your property that I needed to speak about is Halloween and Christmas. I feel that planning forward for that is important. I’ve stated this many occasions in case you’re landscaping your home or no matter you’re doing, it’s important to take into consideration how the Christmas lights are gonna work together with that and the skeletons and all of that. So one thing attention-grabbing, our buddy Sarah from the Hen’s Papaya, bought everlasting Christmas lights placed on her home. Like that keep on all yr spherical. Did you see that? 

Emma: That’s what I’ve. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh. Do you’ve gotten them too? 

Emma: I simply don’t flip ’em on all yr.

Elsie: That’s cool. Are you able to see them? 

Emma: Yeah, you possibly can see them like so far as like in case you’re standing exterior of my home like they’re not turned on, you simply see there are bulbs. 

Elsie: You simply don’t care?

Emma: No, why would I care? 

Elsie: That’s actually interesting to me as a result of I simply don’t wanna pay somebody to place them up and down yearly. However I do need them yearly. 

Emma: Ours is just not very elaborate. I really feel like I can flip them on all winter. They don’t spell out Merry Christmas or Ho Ho Ho or something like that. So in case you needed one thing actually elaborate, possibly it wouldn’t be pretty much as good of an answer. Yeah. I feel most individuals go away their Christmas lights up all yr. They simply don’t flip ’em on. 

Elsie: What, what actually? 

Emma: If it’s not like a coloured factor. They don’t go away like Santa Sleigh up on the roof all yr, however different issues.

Elsie: I’ve by no means needed to do a ballot greater than I do proper now as a result of I assumed that everybody simply took them down.

Emma: Possibly we should always do a ballot. Possibly I’m fallacious. I don’t know. I might completely be fallacious. 

Elsie: I’m very to listen to now, I wanna hear. Please write into us at podcastabeautifulmess.com when you’ve got sturdy emotions or experiences about everlasting Christmas lights. Is there a approach that I can go away my Christmas lights up ceaselessly? Nevertheless it gained’t look dangerous in the summertime. That’s what I wanna know. I’m very interested in this topic. Okay, so that is how I plan Halloween and Christmas. I print off a bit of image. You can additionally simply do that in your telephone, an image of your exterior, after which I simply draw on it. I simply draw on it as many occasions as I would like and simply sort of plan out like what are all of the other ways we might put up the decorations? There are many other ways you are able to do it, it’s so enjoyable. One in every of my favourite issues is driving round at Christmas and like taking a look at how everybody else does all their Christmas lights, the magic of planning it out, and being inventive. It’s a lot enjoyable. 

Emma: Think about driving round on a golf cart with scorching chocolate, taking a look at all of the neighbor’s Christmas lights.

Elsie: Cease it. Okay, so I’ve to only say in Jessica Simpson’s memoir, she was speaking about trick or coaching with golf carts, and now I simply suppose that you just’re like so fancy. 

Emma: Doesn’t it sound like a star factor? I used to be simply complaining about how a lot cash we have to exchange our canine fence after which I’m like, however we’re gonna get this golf cart. You’ll be able to’t inform my priorities are in every single place. 

Elsie: Okay. Do you wanna learn the listener’s query? 

Emma: Sure, this query was emailed to us from Janie. She says, not too long ago the pipes burst in my New York Metropolis house. I’m younger, single, and stay alone. The development firm employed by the house administration firm was making an attempt to only paint over mould and water injury. I needed to frequently combat for the job to be achieved appropriately, for sheetrock to get replaced, and I felt dangerous about it, like responsible for asking for the job to be achieved appropriately. So what are your ideas, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with points like this, particularly as a younger girl? 

Elsie: All proper, I wanna begin off by saying, I simply wrote a put up not too long ago about the right way to rent a contractor on A Lovely Mess. So we’ll hyperlink to that, and it has an entire part about coping with sexism as a result of coping with sexism and folks speaking all the way down to you, sadly, on this trade, on this state of affairs is basically dangerous. And I feel that your expertise is quite common. Truthfully, it’s unhappy, however not stunning to listen to that. So yeah, I feel that studying the right way to rise up for your self and to say your self and likewise get what you need achieved, most significantly are all actually good expertise. Simply coping with the preliminary shock that folks simply don’t hear or attempt to speak you out of what you’re asking for or attempt to speak all the way down to you, it’s irritating. So do you’ve gotten any good ideas Em? 

Emma: Nicely, it seems like Janie did precisely what she wanted to do, which was maintain bothering them till it will get achieved the way in which it must get achieved and while you’re speaking about mould, that’s not a joke. That may mess along with your well being, so this isn’t identical to, oh, the colour’s barely completely different than I assumed and I would like you to repaint it totally free. It’s like, no, no, no, no, no mould is a critical concern. And in addition you probably did an enormous favor to whoever owns your constructing as a result of now there’s not gonna be mould rising ceaselessly. Appears like she did what she wanted to do, but it surely seems like for Janie and positively, for me, I nearly have to only give myself a bit of pep speak after I’ve moments like that the place I’m like, hey, it was okay that you just did that. It was okay that you just stored asking them it was okay that you just instructed them no. Generally I actually do need to nearly speak out loud to myself and be like, it’s tremendous that you just referred to as them again and stated this isn’t acceptable, you weren’t unkind. You weren’t imply, you simply stated what wanted to be stated and that’s okay. Generally I feel that must be one thing in your routine in case you’re the sort of one who feels actually responsible advocating for your self, which I really feel at occasions, so I positively get that. After which in case you’re ever like not sure, ask your mates, ask your dad and mom, whoever you’re shut with, in case you’re like, am I being an excessive amount of right here? Verify-in as a result of your mates will let you know straight away. If I had a buddy be like, do you suppose it’s okay for them to color over mould? I’d be like, no, it’s essential to name them immediately since you can’t be dwelling in a home with mould like that. You understand that it’s there. Generally we stay with mould and we don’t comprehend it, however . If I had a buddy ask me, I’d be like, no, you completely ought to name, it’s good that you just’re calling. It’s good that you just’re checking in. Handle your self. That is necessary to your well being. So possibly attain out to associates, relations, or whoever it’s essential to simply be reassured that the factor you’re asking for is totally acceptable to ask for, and so long as you’re not being unkind, like calling somebody a reputation, or threatening them ultimately. These are issues that aren’t acceptable, however asking for what you want even a number of occasions or considerably forcefully, not yelling, however considerably forcefully is completely acceptable and a really grownup and really regular factor to do.

Elsie: Yep. And actually, if you wish to do plenty of renovations in your life, it’s one thing that it’s best to hone as a ability as a result of it’s one thing that you just’ll come again to time and again. All righty. It’s time for our favourite half, A joke or a reality. All proper. Right here’s gold. Gold. Do you’ve gotten a joke for us immediately?

Goldie: The place does a ghost like to buy? A boooo-tique.

Elsie: Good job. You probably did nice. Okay, thanks a lot for listening. When you’ve got any questions or podcast requests for future episodes. Electronic mail us anytime at [email protected], or you possibly can name our voicemail and go away us a message at 417-893-0011. We’ll be again subsequent week with a deep dive into hobbies.